...to expect my husband to return my call in under 8 hours?

[Nicola246]

Having day from hell. Too much to do. Rotten cold. Screamy child. Crushed my sunglasses when folding pushchair. Covered in food at every meal. Had had enough by 10am. Left a message on my husband's voicemail then. Left an enraged, vicious one at 6pm - heavy sarcasm, thanks for returning the call, you're a git sort of thing. Am I being unreasonable? Am literally quivering with irritation.

poor you, sounds like a day from hell and an early night is in order for you.

I would be pissed off too with the no-response. Drives me mad when dh doesn't bother to reply to texts etc.

I KNOW he is busy, so am I, but 1min to reply wouldn't KILL him!!!

Has he answered you now??????

YABU, unless you told him it was an emergency. Presumably he is at work and therefore busy?

But it's shit to be sick at home with a screamy child. Hope you're feeling better soon.

Perhaps he didn't pick up the message? People leave messages for me, it can be DAYS before I notice. You have no way of knowing that he is even aware you left a message.

What did you want him to do? where was he?

Thanks Millionaire, was so pissed off, it would have taken 1 minute to ring or text. Magicmummy, thanks for your response, but I am also working here and busy but somehow I can always find 1 minute for him. All I wanted was a little sympathy & support. He did ring back but only after I left the second "you're a git" message. Grrrrrr. OK, nearly wine o'clock. Who cares if you can't taste it through the cold?

You posted in AIBU. I did try to show some sympathy, but I'm afraid I still think you were BU.

yes yabu to be a shrew because you had bad day.

Rotten cold gets the sympathy. The rest sound normal, especially the 'covered in food'. But i guess the small things seemed hell because of the rotten cold. Perhaps this wasnt clear in the message you left? If you talk with him explain this.

It completely depends on what he has had on today.

maybe he was busy at work,and id not rush to return your 6pm call either.

Leaving stroppy messages doesn't make people want to call you back. You've been having a shite day (which is not his fault), but he could have been too for all you know. Hope your cold clears up soon.

Get the wine open
We've all had days like these. Let it go. He may have been having a bad day too.

Thanks to all of you who seem to understand that it was basically a rhetorical question. Magicmummy, fair enough and as I said thank you for the sympathy. Scottishmummy, I am so glad that you're not within earshot to hear what I think of you and your nasty "shrew" comment. Wonder how you would have dealt with today. How lucky for you to be such a paragon that you can sit in judgement.

dont fester on it.tomorrow a new day and all that

ah. A rhetorical question. See now, that wasn't clear. People tend to think that when you post in AIBU, that you are asking them for their opinion on whether or not you are being unreasonable.

That's probably how the misunderstanding arose.

Sorry about that.

having another moan are you?you asked for opinion and no likey answer

so that makes everyone else in wrong does it?

further bellyaching hardly strengthens your poor widdle me case

Get that wine open: today is nearly over, thank fuck! Hope your cold is better soon and that your DH comes home with lemsip (but don't mix it with the wine).

My DH regularly does it - I phone him and he's on the other line - so I hang up knowing he'll see the missed call - but then he will forget to phone me back.
Luckily it's never been an emergency!
But I forget more things than him all the time. I just wait for half an hour and then try him again.
When he walks in the door - dump the kids on him and go for a nice hot bath!

'wonder how you would have dealt with today'

Hmm i think SM would just use her sleevegrap the nearest flanner and wipe the food? I cant imagine SM calling this 'hell'

Again, thanks to all the sympathetic people and as for you Scottishmummy if I was a shrew, you are clearly a bitch and at least my state was temporary. You are clearly also unable to read as I have at no point said anyone else was in the wrong. Now, run along and think about why you don't have any friends.

Shit. Why cant i do that thing to strike out a word?

well have been at work all do so your day sounds a dawdle frankly

nicola you are aright ticket,are you always so crabbit

I don't think it matters if it was an emergency or not. OP was having a crap day and needed some love on the phone from her DH. Totally not unreasonable to be pissed that he didn't ring until you'd sent the 'git' message 6+ hours later. 2 fricken minutes of your day!!! How long does it take to send a message, 'Sorry babe for your day. I'll ring you later when I have a minute to chat.' Not even a minute.

PS... he'd better bring some flowers or something, or give you a massage when he gets home.

flowers?only is she eat humble pie