To say no to my ds bringing 3 of his mates in

[alfiethekittycat]

I know I am probably not bu but I do feel guilty

Ds [15] is out with his mates, Went out about an hour ago to, We have about 3 inches of fresh snow here today, I am usually very accomadating to his friends coming in as they all live near each other about 20 min walk away so if they come over here they are never alone walking home but if my ds goes there he has to come home alone, so nost nights after school I end up with them in my house.

I told him before he went out that I didnt want him bringing anyone back as dd is ill, I don't feel great and house is a right mess at the moment,

He just texted me pleading to allow him to bring 3 friends in until 5, ive said no but feel bad now,

When he does have friends round they take over the living room as his bedroom is tiny and I feel I either have to stay in the kitchen or watch tv in my room,

I just wanna keep warm on the sofa for a bit whilst dd is in my bed, aibu?

Of course YANBU. It is not like he never has his friends round. One night will not kill him.

YANBU he is old enough to understand your very good reasons for this one-off no

Thankyou ladies, part of me knows ianbu but just needed to be told i suppose,

Up until a few months ago he never really went out or had friends round but since he has he is a much happier boy which is why I ususally don't mind, he did't moan when I said no but wouldn't be surprised if the bell rings with them in toe,

If that happens I will defo tell them sorry but not tonight.

So where are they?

If they are walking the streets in this weather then I actually think you are being a bit unreasonable (along with the parents of the other 2!) I hate to see kids wandering the streets of an evening.

They don't have to take over the living room, that's your choice. You can easily say that they can come in but they must go to his room and squeeze in there. And if they come downstairs and try to take over, send them back up!

YANBU. They are 15, able to understand the word no and not suffer any ill consequences of not getting into your house one evening! They'll either call it a day and each head home, or they'll be on the phone to pester another parent

will they all just go to their own houses if you say no?

and TBH. even if they don't that isn;t your fault, tehy are 15 it's up to them if tey wont go home.

YANBU.

My ds has just come in and said his friends have gone back to the area they live so not sure if they actually went home to their houses or not.

I do not want them walking the streets either especially in this weather but I cannot always accomodate them,

I don't mind so much if it is prearranged but when they just knock for him, they are out for a bit then expect to come in [usually around dinner time] If they are here then I always do feed them but I am on a low income and feeding 6 or 7 is different to feeding 3,

Like I said in my op, I very rarely say no bu seeing as dd is ill and I feel like crap it just wasn't convenient tonight,