Well would I be?

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darksideofthemooncup · 17/12/2010 10:55

My friend is having a baby and has asked me to be her birth partner, which I am happy to do and she is 4 days overdue so the arrival is imminent. The problem is my 3 yo dd has gone down with flu, (my parents were going to have her whilst I was with my friend) If she goes into labour today and I drive down to her there is every chance I will get snowed in tomorrow (she lives an hour away from me).

The ex-partner has said he would be there for her but she doesn't want him there and her own father is staying with her so he can get her to the hospital (so she isn't completely on her own)

I really really don't want to let her down but I also don't want to leave my dd when she is sick.

So the question is would I be being unreasonable to tell her that I can't promise that I will be there for her after all?

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ClenchedBottom · 17/12/2010 10:57

Surely the big issue is that your DD has flu - can't imagine that your friend wants flu too! You need to speak to your friend asap......

QuoththeRaven · 17/12/2010 11:08

i would agree with clenched. your dd has the flu, there may be a chance you get it too. i dont know if your friend would want you be there with the risk of her and her newborn getting it. speak to your friend about it and see what she says

WriterofDreams · 17/12/2010 11:10

Yeah you need to talk to your friend right away about this. Tell her the situation and ask for her opinion - as the others have said she may be very wary about having you there as you've been exposed to flu.

Remember too that she could go the full 12 days over and need to be induced, in which case it'll be another week before anything happens.

I feel very sorry for you friend to be in such a lonely position. Is there any backup that she could sort out in the meantime?

MsKalo · 17/12/2010 11:11

of course you are not being unresonable - your dd has to come first and when your friend has her own child she will understand this

unfortunately, circumstances are against you and you can't risk being snowed in and away from your dd

poor you with such a horrible dilemma x

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darksideofthemooncup · 17/12/2010 11:14

Thanks ladies, that is what I thought. Writer she has got her dad with her although she probably won't want him in the delivery room with her.

I just feel so bad about letting her down at the 11th hour

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