to stop a girl falling under a train?

[MandSCustomer]

i've name changed because i don't want to be identified but i am a regular.

I was on a work do last night (just a meal and quiet drinks) so I had my 3mth DD with me in a baby carrier.

we were on the platform waiting for the tube and there was a girl standing near us who was obviously drunk and very wobbly. I am embarrassed to admit my initial reaction was to walk away. but she then moved closer to the edge and i couldn't ignore that it was happening. so i went over and stood slightly behind her to the side, got her attention and asked her to move back because she was scaring me.

dh is cross because he's saying i put our daughter at risk ie if girl had grabbed me and pulled us both onto the tracks with her

i am in no doubt that if i hadn't done anything that she would have fallen off the platform. I am also in no doubt that nobody else would have spoken to her or helped

so, was i right or wrong to help?

well I was just illustrating that people don't always act the way you think they might. So you do have to be careful. But I think, on balance, you'd still want to help someone rather than sit by and not do anything tbh.

nottired... true, i did think about asking but if i hadn't manage to quickly convince the first person, i was worried about the imminent train's arrival...

fellatio dh wasn't with me, i was travelling on my own

memud good point about my reactions being quicker

You were right of course. If I had to do a written risk assessment, though, I'd have left her and goodness knows what might have happened. Well done, you are a good citizen!

I think you did the right thing. It would have been much better if one of the other passengers at the station had made the effort before you had to. However, can also see why a man might be reluctant to start talking to a young, drunk girl on her own, in case it was taken the wrong way either by her or other people. It was probably better that a woman helped her.

M&S - By borrowing trouble, I mean that he is creating a problem that doesn't exist by talking about what ifs. What if this happened? What if you fell of the platform? Well, something like that could happen all the time.
He is being dramatic focussing on what could have happened when nothing actually did.

You did a good thing, well done.

thanks for explanation pfft, i've never heard that expression

I suspect my mother might have made it up

you did nice thing,it was a judgement call and you called it as you saw it

well done

i understand his indignantion

Absolutely you did the right thing. This girl was somebody's baby once and probably still has a mother who would thank you for saving her daughter. Maybe it would have been different if she had been ranting and looking like she was about to jump. Then you and baby may have been in danger. Talking to her and encouraging her to move back to safety made sense for both of you.