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..to think it a bad idea to visit the inlaws thus weekend

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Zeeky · 16/12/2010 23:36

We've booked a hotel in Birmingham do that we can go up for the whole weekend (usually go ip & back in a day, 2 hrs each way). Inlaws live in 3 bed semi but we haven't been in their house for 5yrs now as they have "issues" with stuff - basically it is such a tip & so full of stuff that they can no longer have us in for a cup of yea let alone to stay over, but that's a whole other story!

So anyway we decided to book a hotel this time as we have a 3yr old & 7mth old so thought it would be less tiring for us all to stay over night. Ds2 has been poorly for a week (cough, temp, v&d), and now snow is forecast for the weekend, so I'd really rather not go & risk getting stranded there with a pukey baby. DH is adamant that we go as he made a big fuss with his family about us coming up (they wouldn't commit to making plans for the weekend, so we had to force the issue a little).

AIBU to want to just cancel the whole thing??

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Beaches · 16/12/2010 23:50

It would not be xmas without a little bit of conflict! I think maybe he is worried about thier reaction more so than thinking rationally about the practical side of things, I would explain as calmly as poss that it is in your sons interest you cancel, if his parents were that bothered they would of sorted thier house out five years ago for your visits, good luck :)

classydiva · 16/12/2010 23:51

YOu can cancel if the weather is bad saturday morning, no need to cancel just in case, what if it does not snow?

cerealqueen · 16/12/2010 23:54

Its forecast snow and your DS is sick. Sounds like it'll be horrendous, to travel all that way with a sick child (V&D in the car??!!) and you may get stuck. Why everybody must see people over the xmas is beyond me, when in some case its just not feasible. Don't go.

YANBU.

Monty27 · 17/12/2010 00:00

YANBU and you've got to get back.........

Xmas Shock

I wouldn't go with a poorly ds, and 7month old might be poorly by then too.

werewolf · 17/12/2010 00:04

I wouldn't go with the d&v alone. Not worth making the inlaws sick.

But it's supposed to be heavy snow in the Midlands on Saturday...

klauskinskiinthekinotech · 17/12/2010 00:20

We have a similar trip but (day trip) planned on Saturday mornng by train from the North to London. We will wait until Sat morning as we have paid 98 quid for the tickets.I don't fancy being stranded by bad weather in London as it is too bloody expensive.... But bad weather can be truly bad having read about the elderly couple in Scotland who were stranded in their car for 12 hours on a 40 min round trip by motorway to their daughter. (This was at 10.AM too!) As I write this I note the Met office has issued a weather alert for this area on Saturday. If I were you I would wait and see on Saturday. If you are reallly uneasy don't go.

Beaches · 17/12/2010 00:26

Meant to be travelling to disneyland paris sat morn, crossing fingers!

MadamDeathstare · 17/12/2010 00:28

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Zeeky · 17/12/2010 02:56

We think the d&v is a side effect of the antibiotics so possibly not catching.

DH had such a battle with his family organising this weekend that he is loathed to cancel. We have already changed our hotel booking once & lost our money. Due to PIL house situation we always have to meet at his sister's. She had a nervous breakdown earlier in the year & attempted suicide so we thought we should definitely not put the pressure on her of having a house full of people to feed & entertain for the weekend - their house is tiny so it stressful with everyone
crammed in at the best of times! When we suggested that we meet somewhere for lunch & actually do something for the afternoon instead of sitting around all day at sister's hse PIL got all defensive & it turned into a major battle to sort out arrangements! Why we are even bothering is beyond me - it's for our DC to see their cousin more than anything. So dh is reluctant to cancel....

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diddl · 17/12/2010 05:41

IMO it´s always a bad idea to visit ILsBlushGrin

OP, sounds awful, but now it´s booked I´d wait & see what the weather does first.

Do you have a way of checking weather whilst you are there in case you need to return earlier than planned?

Rindercella · 17/12/2010 06:45

Sounds a bloody nightmare, I don't envy you.

But I agree with diddl, you should probably wait & see what the weather does and then take it from there.

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Zeeky · 17/12/2010 07:06

Thanks guys! It looks like snow is worst for Sunday, so will prob just come on Saturday evening. At least then we will have done our familial duty.

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Animation · 17/12/2010 07:10

Get the impression this is something your DH has got to do.

Like a man's got to do what a man's got to do...situation.

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