DS (3.3) has been at nursery for 3 afternoon sessions since sept.
I thought it would prpbably be quite hard to settle him, and nursery staff were helpful in letting us do this gradually and actually he settled in more quickly and easily than we expected.
Then a couple of weeks ago I got there and he was sobbing, apparenlty for about an hour!?. They said it very unusual (but they didnt think to call me?).
They didnt think anything had happened to upset him and he wouldnt tell me anything much about it when i asked-not as if he was hiding anything, he seemed to think there was nothing to talk about. But he kep saying he didnt want to go.
The manager said next time i took him to leave him and the door, be upbeat and go. But he was v. v. upset and eventually his keyworker carried him in (it didnt feel right but i went with their advice).
The deputy manager was quite shocked at the change in him and suggested we start coming in with him again, very briefly, to help him get over this blip. I agreed and asked her to pass it on to other staff (they dont have anything like a book for each child to write such things in). Before the next session, the manager texted me to say leave him at door as we agreed. I texted her back to say no, have arranged to come in briefly and she agreed reluctantly- but clearly knew nothing about this.
Before the following session i called her again and we agreed i would go in briefly again. when i got there the staff member tried to take him in, i said no i'm coming and she started to say 'he'll be fine withot you' so i said i didnt want to talk about it in front of him- which clearly pissed her off. so she went to get the manager who agreed i could go in. (she has been just about civil to me since)
clearly- the things i've discussed with the manager dont get through to all staff. he seems happier now, but i feel really pissed off that a relatively small issue got blown up into me making numerous calls, just because the staff werent talking to each other. And it feels as if they think i am being neurotic about him.
we have the parents evening thing tomorrow and i dont know whether to bring it up with his keyworker- she is really lovely, but very young and i'm not sure she will get it or do much. but i feel like asking for a meeting with the manager will blow it up even more.
AIBU?