To think that it's weird to have a bar at a school disco?

[Fernie3]

Ot was my daughters school disco last night and they had a bar serving quite a respectable range of drinks which some parents were taking perhaps a little too much advantage of!. I have never heard of this before ( first term in this school since we moved). When I was little there was a little sweet counter and parents had tea - what happened?

Aibu to think that a bar is weird at an infant school Christmas disco?

I think it's pretty normal, isn't it? The DC's old state (CofE) primary does beer for parents at the school disco, pimms at the summer fair, mulled wine at the christmas fair, and wine/beer at the summer barbecue. I think that's what the PTA make most of their money on.

But the really heavy drinking (for staff and parents) goes on at the Christmas dinner/dance/party - there have been some seriously drunk parents and teachers around, but at least that event is adults-only. And most people live nearby.

Yours is well run then Nesta.
All the infant discos I've seen seem to involve small children running round like looneys, followed by the resulting injury and tears.
2 infant schools in our area have banned discos... 1st was sued after one boy knocked his teeth out whilst running around.
2 one, boy swallowed a pound coin.

Ingles- that's awful. Two boys in my DS's class have banged their teeth and ending up losing them (DC was one) and we wouldn't dream of suing the school. You can't sue schools because 4 years olds run around like lunatics.

Anyway, yes I'm pleased with the way DS's school is run. Its not a great area but had a great Ofsted report and the staff are brilliant.

I think the disco was well run because non-nursery class parents were asked to leave for the disco. My DS shows off like a fool if I'm present.

Would sooner have them selling booze to parents than sweets to kids like they used to do at the discos when DD was at primary school.

I don't think it's acceptable at all. Would I be completely safe getting my child home after a drink or too-maybe-but not as safe as when I am sober.

Puppy- how can parents with alcohol in their system be safer than kids who've had sweets at a disco?

dietcoke- you are right. People might feel Ok after a drink but it does slow your reactions etc and I wouldn't feel as safe taking my two children home after a drink or two.

I just think its not appropriate anyway-parents whiffing of booze at a kids' party? Hmm.

Can't see a problem myself - just because alcohol is available doesn't mean parents will binge drink or drive home after drinking. DS2 (aged 3) had his nursery disco last night, held at the local band club (nursery doesn't have a hall), bar was open -no-one was drunk. Actually, nursery staff had the odd drink too, it wouldn't occur to me to think this was a problem (but parents were expected to stay and supervise anyway). Nor do I think this means that parents can't stay off the drink for one night - having the odd drink and behaving responsibly is a better example to set surely. (BTW - I didn't drink - DH did).

not half as weird as not having mulled wine at Ds1's school xmas fair, which i really could have done with, and was kinda expecting, as at DS2's state rpimary there is always wine /pimms etc.

I don't think there is anything weird about it. DDs primary usually had some sort of bar - e.g. the mulled wine and mince pies at Christmas and a general bar at the summer BBQ. Again I think it was a good fund raiser and I don't remember ever seeing anyone the worse for drink as they were just having one or two to be sociable.

Also we lived within walking distance of the school, as did many other parents, so getting home afterwards wasn't really an issue.

A glass of wine and a mince pie is one thing - a bar not so much. I just hope that the car park was empty....

The PTA disco for DD's school has always been held in a hotel funtion room in the past, so there has always been a bar avaialble for parents, plus the option to eat whilst the girls are discoing away. This year it is in a function room of a gym, again there is a bar/cafe available to parents who are present.

It was DD's carol concert this morning. Afterwards, in the church foyer, mince pies and mulled wine was served, along with juice for children.

At prize day, done at the school, afterwards in the marquee int he playground sparkling wine and nibbles are served for parents.

IMO this kind of drinking does not lead to a binge drinking culture.

Oh - and most parents here serve alcohol at their children's birthday parties, to any parents who happen to stay around.

None of us are raving alcoholics or binge dinking, drink driving or causing trouble aferwards.