To expect that an explanation is given at he end of a relationship

[Bouncingback]

Just that...that an explantion is given at the end of a relationship (however brief) rather than just going AWOL..and leave you wondering..what happened there then?

Depends on the length/seriousness of the relationship I guess.

If it's a few dates then maybe YABU but not if it's a relationship.

yanbu - it would be nice to think you would be given an explanation but sadly that's not always the case....

It depends... when I ended things with XP it was a massive thing and there wasn't one clear reason why I ended it and my head was such a mess that there's no way I could have given him a clear and coherent explanation at that time, so I didn't. I waited for him to ask (to give me time to formulate the words) and he never did, the only thing he wanted to know was "Is there someone else?" which was so ludicrous and out-of-touch that it just cemented my thoughts that it was fine not to explicitly offer an explanation, because I don't think he'd have got it anyway. (I did answer his question).

Not saying this is applicable in all cases but sometimes if your head is in a mess after a relationship has ended, explanations are too painful/difficult. I think it's reasonable to ask for one after some time has passed though, if you are still in contact (or even if not)