Am really upset and also wondering if IABU. A friend of many years had a DD a couple of months after I had my DD, they are both nearly two. I have had to put up with her competiveness since their births, my DS was born with a cleft palate and is has been slightly behind with eating ind and talking, although we have now found out that he has some hearing problems. This I havent minded, however, I got married a couple of months ago and quite a few young children were coming, I rang all the parents and told them not to worry at all should the children make a noise, they couldnt get out of the room and the registrar said she could shout louder than any child and that everyone was just to enjoy the wedding, needless to say some children made a noise, no one minded at all. I was told after the service, that she was really laying into her child for screaming through the service and that she was ashamed etc.... anyway she promptly took the child to her sisters as she said she was not well behaved enough to come to the reception, I was really upset to hear this as the afternoon had been geared around the children, but I didnt say anything. Anyway this afternoon she rang and left a message to thank me so much for the lovely christmas present that I had sent her daughter, how much her DD would love it when they showed her, blah blah. I am really upset now cos I sent the present for her daughter for christmas who at two i would have thought would have fun opening. Just feel slightly put out by it all, cos we were really good friends and I`ve always really treasured good friendship, and now I dont feel we are even on the same planet. Am AIBU?