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redflag · 15/12/2010 14:07

Ds's teacher came to our home today along with The school liaison officer. Because he has been off school sick?

I am only put out as the liaison officer has a good look at my kitchen and a nose round at every given opportunity.

I am not worried in any way shape or form, it just upset me that it was a sneaky thing to do. He was not announced, his teacher was.

Would you be a bit alarmed too.

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marge2 · 15/12/2010 14:10

A bit alarmed, yes, but it would depend. How many days off sick??

ConnorTraceptive · 15/12/2010 14:12

Sounds a bit ott for afew days off sick. What is your son's attendance like generally and has there been any other problems at school?

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redflag · 15/12/2010 14:13

Hello Marge

He has been off sick for a long time, we have viral meningitis and as he only started in Aug he has picked up everything going including chicken pox.

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merrycompo · 15/12/2010 14:13

You don't say how long he's been off for?

merrycompo · 15/12/2010 14:14

Oops crossed posts! Is he 5 yet? As they don't need to go at all legally until they're 5

MerrilyDefective · 15/12/2010 14:14

Not sure i'd have let them through the door.
Certainly seems ott to me.
Can't they make an appointment or ask to see you at school?

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redflag · 15/12/2010 14:15

Hello Connor he only started in Aug, he is in reception, the school told me they are aware that when they first start, the majority get a lot of illness.

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MerrilyDefective · 15/12/2010 14:15

Poor little boy.
Surely the school know all this?

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redflag · 15/12/2010 14:16

he has been off for three weeks on the advice of the doctor.

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Flisspaps · 15/12/2010 14:17

Sounds a bit extreme for a reception child, might have expected something like this for a Y10/11 but not a five year old!

marge2 · 15/12/2010 14:17

Hopefully they'll have seen you are a normal person and your child really is sick and bugger off and not bother you again.

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redflag · 15/12/2010 14:21

no he is not 5 until next year.

I let him in as i didn't want to be rude or obstructive, and to be honest i am happy they came to visit, as i would hate the thought of them having suspicions about his absence, and me not having the chance to demonstrate how ill he is.

I have it too, and i can tell you, i have never been so ill in my life, i have been delirious, dizzy sick and running a fever for weeks.

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redflag · 15/12/2010 14:23

i think so Marge, he seemed to be more interested in my sofa than anything else, and where he could get one.

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ConnorTraceptive · 15/12/2010 14:31

Oh well I think they have been way OTT but hopefully they came, they saw and they are satisfied.

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redflag · 15/12/2010 14:37

I would just love to know what medical training they have that they think my doctor would not have iykwim!

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ledodgy · 15/12/2010 14:51

I would be fuming tbh. He is four he doesn't even have to legally be in school yet!

ChippingIn · 15/12/2010 14:56

I wouldn't have allowed them to make the appointment to visit. It is all getting far too intrusive. He doesn't even have to be at school yet, you could get a Drs note if they don't believe you - but FFS he's 4, you can keep him at home anytime you want to!

My friends kids school does 'home visits' before the kids start - supposedly to see the child in a more relaxed environment - what a lot of crap. {I don't blame the teachers, I'm sure loads of them hate it too).

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redflag · 15/12/2010 17:57

I agree chippingin, We didnt have a home visit but my neighbour did and she said it felt very weird.

I didnt even know it was an appointment, his teacher called and offered to drop his school pics off to us, and to see Alexander (he is very much in love with her, so i jumped at the chance of him seeing her.) And i didn't know he was coming until he walked through the door.

Perhaps he was just attending as she was a teacher going into a home environment, and read too much into it?

Possibly, i have had a little time to think about it now.

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LaWeaselMys · 15/12/2010 18:04

Maybe it is a standard practice thing where there have to be a witness to any home visits? So he was not there as the liason officer, iyswim.

TattyDevine · 15/12/2010 18:07

Ooh what sofa do you have, then? Link? Grin

Must be special!

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redflag · 15/12/2010 18:08

Well i don't really know, LaWeasel,

I am not really sure about any of it. But he had a good nose (perhaps his natural reaction when entering a home that is well kept?) He didnt explain his presence at all. But was just commenting on our furniture and TV Hmm The whole time.

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redflag · 15/12/2010 18:10

Lol Tatty not really. Blush we designed it ourselves in nabru Grin its an 8 seater.

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verytellytubby · 15/12/2010 18:45

OTT. I'd be livid.

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