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AIBU?

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to not want my brother to go out with SIL

14 replies

trailledog · 14/12/2010 16:57

My brother and SIL have started dating, they've met each other several times and it seems they've taken a shine to one another, apparently they've going out for the last 5 weeks. I know this sounds bad but I really don't want them to, I'm worried that it could cause friction between me and the ILs or DH and my parents if some time in the future they were to break up.
He's 22 and she's 25 and there's nothing I can do

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IAmReallyFabNow · 14/12/2010 16:59

Exactly and it really isn't your business. Try and be positive. They might fall in love and have their whole life together.

YulenoYurbubson · 14/12/2010 16:59

Nope, nothing you can do.

Have you any reason to think things might go sour?

Am trying to put myself in your position, and if my brother started dating my husband's sister... I don't see why any issues that caused would cause friction between me and my husband, or his parents. It wouldn't be my fault, r anything to do with me really.

Flisspaps · 14/12/2010 17:01

YABU.

LaWeaselMys · 14/12/2010 17:03

YABU.

What if you and your partner broke up? That would cause friction for Your B and SIL too.

tinkertitonk · 14/12/2010 17:03

Maybe just wish them well?

HecTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly · 14/12/2010 17:04

Do adults normally fall out with each other over other people's break-ups?

I don't think you need to worry about anything, it's got bugger all to do with you and won't affect you.

Unless there are some real weirdos in the family who will hold someone responsible for the actions of an independent adult.

In which case, I'd have to say your brother and sil dating is not your most pressing problem.

elephantpoo · 14/12/2010 17:11

My sister went out with my BIL for a bit.
There were lots of issues that concerned me regarding their relationship (he'd recently split from a very long term relationship, she was at the end of a miserable relationship). At the end of the day there was nothing we could do. We (me and DH) made it clear that we didn't see it lasting. There was a period of time when we didn't see them (about 6 months), it got messy and lots of people fell out when they split up.
It still wouldn't have lasted if we hadn't been so blatant with our feelings, but if we'd gone with the flow a bit more my sister wouldn't feel like such a stranger now, and I could've been there when she needed me (alone with a baby).
Advice......don't judge-keep that to yourself, and go with the flow. If it ends it ends, if not great-and you don't upset anybody :)

MadamDeathstare · 14/12/2010 17:15

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YulenoYurbubson · 14/12/2010 17:21

I felt a bit odd when my brother started dating the younger sister of my best friend. Awkward. It obviously wouldn't last.

My misgivings were totally unfounded, and they have been in a happy and solid relationship for years. I could not have been more wrong. Thank goodness I didn;t say anything.

magicmummy1 · 14/12/2010 18:29

As you have already said, there's nothing you can do. So just try to be happy for them, and make sure that you stay out of any arguments!

ShoppingDays · 14/12/2010 19:12

YABU

seteer · 14/12/2010 21:53

I do see your concerns but there ain't anything you can do about it

tecerel · 14/12/2010 22:14

YABU what your brother and SIL do is none of your business

PortlyBlackSantaUpAChimney · 14/12/2010 22:20

Two brothers married two sisters in my family two generations ago. There were no probs.

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