To put up a dead man's Christmas cards?

[MemooMerrilyOnHigh]

DH think I am a total loon.

I have lived in this house for 9 years. According to the neighbours the old man who lived here before me died in the house after living here for 50 odd years. Every year we get several Christmas cards arrive for him and every year I put them up as I feel its like a little mark of respect.

Dh thinks its weird and a tat morbid but I can't just put them in the bin!

If it's upsetting your DH then don't do it. If it's just keeping him on his toes then go ahead.

It's a very good memorial.

Personally I think it pointless. It was a fella you didn't know and he has been dead for ages.

We sometimes get them here and I chuck them as the people who used to live here have no relatives that we know off.

The thought wouldn't bother me if someone did it to my family members either.It is a card - he is dead- and your DH thinks it is morbid. Get shut!!!

I'd put them up...

I put up cards that arrive here for the peiople who we bought the house from 7 years ago - I figure that we are closer to them than the origional people were, considering the origional people haven't let them know they have moved.

YANBU and I think I'd do the same. It would be too sad to just throw them away.

I don't get what is sad about it.

We all die. Sometimes other people don't find out.

You are fretting over a piece of paper!
Get a grip

Who is fretting?

Well,Shipping in Memmoo has posted on AIBU so it must be an issue.

Ha that come out wrong!! I meant ChippingIn. Sorry

YANBU - that's a lovely thing to do. :)

Cuddly Why is it a lovely thing to do?

The man has been dead years
The OP doesn't know him
The card sender is sending a duty card because he doesn't know the chap has been dead for years and has not tried to get in touch any other time.

What purpose does it serve to anyone? I really don't get it.

I'd put them up just to bulk out the 4 or 5 xmas cards I get every year

I think it's a lovely thing to do and he might well be there reading them for himself.

I think it's very sweet of you, but a shame that these people don't know he's passed on.

I guess you'll know when they've passed away as the cards will stop. That'd make me feel very sad. :(

YANBU. I would also put them up. In fact, I would be afraid NOT to!

Guess it's just me who thinks you are barking!!

I think that is lovely Memoo.

We never truly own houses - we are just the guardians of them for a period of time. I really love the fact that you respect the previous guardian in this way and that you feel something for the fact he shared your home once. :)

I hope someone puts up the cards I sent to dead people this week, there were 44 of them.

Mil has dementia and got out her old address book, she must have a newer one but says not.

I couldn't bring my self to keep saying that nearly all of the people in it were dead, so we just wrote them and posted them.

Bless you - what a kind heart you have to remember this man in this way. Not creepy, nor spooky at all - just honouring a life.

Not creepy or spooky, but neither do I understand why its 'lovely' - it is just a card, and as others have said, they clearly aren't from close friends who would know about his death or attended his funeral.

So while I don't think there's anything wrong with it, I wouldn't romanticise it and think its lovely either- its a pointless act really. Certainly not worth doing if other family members find it A bit odd, opening someone elses cards