DD off sick yesterday, wanted today off but also wanted me to collect her friend after school for a playtime

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

and for her to hide in the car while I went and got friend. I refused. WIBU?
She had a horribly high temperature and was complaining of a swimmy head and sore throat. She ligged about on Saturday and Sunday then I kept her off school yesterday. She had no fever this morning and was able to argue so I decided she could go back.
This is a long standing arrangement that S comes to our house tonight to play and have tea, but DD had this brilliant idea (her words) as outlined above.

YANBU

The rules are if you're too ill for school, you're too ill for any fun stuff later that day!

I'm sure you have similar-ish rules, please don't let her con you into thinking YWBU.

But my word they can want their cake and eat it can't they?

Is it just you and me here today kreecher?

YANBU - your DD is trying it on! If she is ill then you don't want to risk her friend getting ill. If she isn't that ill then she should be at school! The fact that she suggested she hide in the car so teachers wouldn't see her suggests she knows full well she's in the wrong.

No! If she is too ill for school then she is to ill to have mates over. Plus she could of made the mate ill too.

YANBU

What ChristmasTrulyReigns said. Although I can actually remember trying to pull this one on my mum many moons ago and being most put out when she laughed and told me no way.

I would have laughed and said 'nice try dd!'

(I like her plan, but would have said no too)

I remember when I was little we were only allowed off school if we were literally dying, and then we weren't allowed to do ANYTHING, especially not anything remotely fun - pretty much just lie in bed and sleep - no TV or anything. But, to be fair, when genuinely unwell all you want to do is sleep anyway.

I think it has done me good as I have grown up with a good work ethic in adulthood and rarely take time off sick, and I think this has benefitted me in life. So I think no YANBU to instill this in your daughter.

No school = no after school activities including play dates.

That's our rule.

I didn't think I was BU. She really does try it on and I don't know why. She loves her teacher and her school and her friends. She has issues with a couple of girls in her class, but she wouldn't be a child if she didn't.
She did make me laugh this morning, she told me she wanted pizza with nothing on because her friend is either Jain or Hindu and can't have anything interesting. I pointed out that her mum gave me some tandoori chicken and parotha when I went to collect her.
We'll call at the supermarket on the way home.