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[Dolanette]

WWYD My sister and my DS's piano teacher - who I am friendly with - had 'words' recently. According to DS, piano teacher was disrespectful to her - possibly provoked!

Would you mention it to teacher? Don't like the thought of her been disrespectful to my sister.

Or should I leave it, pretend I never heard anything about it?

Leave it, it's none of your business (assuming your sister is an adult?)

Really don't like this "disrespecting" thing that's so common these days. You earn respect.

leave it, no good can come of it if you get involved!

OLKN My sister is an adult.

Then leave it; she doesn't need you to defend her, does he? Especially if she may have provoked the teacher.

Why would you think it is even remotely acceptable for you to say anything? They are both adults and the piano teacher is not your inferior as you seem to be implying.

CI I wasn't implying that at all.

When I heard it first, my first impression was that if she respected sorry OLKN,can't think of a better word me, would she speak to my sister like that??

What has it got to do with you or her respect for you (and why exactly should she hold you in great respect anyway??) ?

We were friends as children. I choose her to teach my DS as I believed we had good relationship, possibly mutual respect!!

I am still not getting this. Your adult sister and another adult had words. Your sister says the other adult was disrespectful (and you say she was possibly provoked) - WHY are you involving yourself - is your sister unable to sort out her own adult relationships?

What exactly was said?

Respect is never a given, it does have to be earnt. This respect malarky people expect it for no reason, it is not respect first, it is earn that respect then get it.

maybe it's a case of manners then??

I say leave it, no sense in getting yourself in the middle of something going on between the two of them. Sad your DS had to be witness to it though.

I will say this, if it happens again, I would talk to your sister and ask that if she has a problem with the teacher that she deal with it when your DS isn't present so he doesn't have to feel uncomfortable.

Em....why exactly would you get involved?

Dolanette, I am absolutely fine with people respecting each other, it's the "dissin' me" shite I really can't be arsed with. My default setting is that I am polite and "respectful" to everybody until such time as I have a reason to feel otherwise; that someone has lost my respect. And someone demanding "respec'" loses it right away.

So, who was ill-mannered, and in what way? In short, who said what to whom?

Eh? Because this person teaches your DS piano she has to 'respect' your sister? I just don't get it.

Why don't you ask your sister about it if you really feel you need to do anything about it?

Not enough info. Do you mean that your sister took your DS to his music lesson instead of you and then her and the teacher had words? In that case, it would be reasonable for you to find out what happened. Otherwise I don't see how does that concern you.