to text my Dad back FUCK OFF

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I have a landline and a mobile phone. I rarely use my landline, only parents, and official people have the number.

So at 6pm every single night I take my kids upstairs for a bath. I have no landline upstairs which suits me fine. I like to bath my kids read stories and have hugs before lights out at around 7pm. If my landline or mobile rings at that time I don't answer it. Unless it rings repeatedly and then I know it's important. My dh usually gets home between 6.30 and 7.30, if he gets in before lights out he comes upstairs for stories and hugs etc..

My Mum and my Inlaws both know not to phone between 6 and 7pm; I've told my Dad about a gazillion times not to phone me between 6 and 7pm.

So why the fuck does he phone my landline at least twice, a couple of times a week. Then send me a text saying "Cannot+get+answer+from+you+call+me+sometime"

Don't tell him to f* off, but send a quick text telling him what time you will be free at.

I feel your pain though. FIL rings our house about once every fortnight at anytime around 10pm-11pm.

We have a 9 month old and this ringing late a night drives me INSANE. He doesn't take heed though, which makes me even more

Take a deep breath, OP

YANBU to want to text him back saying fuck off but a pointed "well if you do phone at bedtime you wont get an answervfrom us" might suffice.

FWIW my dad has a knack for this too. Mind you he's had 4 DC and never done a bedtime so probably has no idea what bedtime even means.

Thanks, I usually text back - Remember i'm doing bath and bedtime, will be free after 7pm.

just take the phone out the wall at that time.

Mine always rings too...JUST as I am getting my difficult-to-put-to-bed 2 year old down!

People foget.

Sadly some people really do believe you can nip downstairs and answer the phone when small children are in the bath and assume you are being awkward if you prefer not to letthemdrown answer the phone. Id continue to text back as you are doing and let the silly sod get on with it. Dont text fuck off - too bridge burn-y methinks...

YABU to have such a severe reaction, but YANBU to have a reaction of some kind.

Perhaps calm down before texting back, people do forget and make mistakes, it doesn't mean you should speak to them like crap because of it.

Fair enough, but this has gone on for 2 years and I've talked to my Dad about it countless times. I don't think it's the ringing that annoys me, it's the text after, like I'm avoiding him.

Maybe he's trying to avoid me!

YANBU, that would drive me bloody nuts.

Telling him to fuck off is being VERY unreasonable. I would never have spoken to my dad like that.

Ignore it. Don't call him back. Eventually he will call you at a different time.

You should set up voicemail on the phone, and read out the following message: "If this is you dad, and it is between 7 and 8 pm, please call back after 8.30, as you know I am busy putting the kids to sleep now." And make sure your phone diverts to voicemail directly when you go upstairs.

I think you are me... Or we just share a dad! I ignore his silly messages. Always 'you never answer your phone' even when he phoned me during school hours (I'm a teacher).

belindarose i think we share a dad too , i have explained what feels like a million times that i work full time sometimes til ten at night yet still get why dont you answer your phone? messages and calls at nine in the morning! i have a five month old!!! the rest of my family are just as bad mind .My mum gets really affronted when i say im having a lie in , i have spent the past ten years explaining im a night person and will go to bed at two and get up at ten, yet no one listens!