To be fucking fuming?

[maristella]

I have just found out that when my mum met DS after school in the library on Friday, he had been followed and was being threatened by 2 older boys in either Year 10 or 11 :(

DS is Year 8, he is 5ft tall; these boys were around 6ft

DS has given me the full name of the main offender, and the first name of the other. I have tried to find the parents of this boy via directory enq so that I can discuss it with them, but I can't find their details. I have emailed the school.

But I'm absolutely fucking livid: why can't they leave my son alone? One of the boys I have had to bring to the school's attention before, and DS is scared of him; DS' friends are also scared of him.

Why do they do it? What's wrong with them?
Most importantly how do I get them to stop?
:(

Definitely bring it to the attention of the school. They should have an anti-bullying policy, and wand to stamp it out asap.

Your poor DS I was bullied at school, but it was by oscracism, not by two older children. That's dreadful.

That's awful - you poor son

Would it be worth phoning the police, given that it was outwith the school premises and hours? Def. pursue with the school as well though.

Thank you.

I have told the school that the next step would be to inform the police, and that I might meet DS at the library after school myself on occasion so if they do it again they might be faced with a very angry mother! I wouldn't do anything stupid; I'm not going to jeopardise my career etc (just in case you think I am on fast track to losing the plot!) but I will not sit quietly by while my DS is threatened and intimidated by children the size of adults.

I was bullied too, mainly psychological stuff, and it was awful. To his credit DS handles it much better than I did, and much better than I do now! To hear of these events makes me feel kind of wild and desperate :(

And thank you for listening :)

I'm on my own with DS and needed to have a sweary little rant but can't really do it here

Good for you maristella, I think it's great that your ds knows you'll fight his corner.

Hey OP, think you should tell the police AND try to talk to the kids' parents if possible. My younger sister (by 10 years) had possible learning difficulties at school and was bullied over IM by gangs of girls (on school computers!!). I rang up the parents who refused to listen and we tried contacting the school, who were useless.

It just makes you see red, doesn't it -- I'll admit I had fantasies about finding the little snotrag who did it and seeing how she liked being confronted with someone bigger than her and very angry!

But a warning visit from the police would work wonders in most cases, I think. Good luck to you.

I wouldn't talk to the parents, i would leave that up to either the police or the school.