To ask DH to come back if I have a migraine?

[InkyStamp]

DH has gone to play sport.

On Friday I got a migraine and could hardly walk and my head thumped when I moved etc. The only thing that helped was migralieve.

We are now out of migralieve and i have rumblings of another migraine. My head is thumping and explodey when bend down. I have taken two paracetamol and two ibuprofen in the hopes that it will subside enough for us to walk the three mles into town to get more migralieve. (DH has the car).

I tod DH how I was feeling and said 'I will probably call you if this gets like Friday'. His response? @Fine, but i am not coming back!' and off he went.

We have three children 5 and under. AIBU in asking him to come back if it gets worse? He does sport EVERY weekend btw. At least one day 8 - 4ish and often a couple of hours on the other day as well.

I didnt ask for help on Friday, despite looking after a poorly 5 yr old and the baby and then the middle child when he came home from nursery. I just soldiered on. BUt today I also have a wracking cough and every time I do I feel like my head will explode.

Just feel like crap and want to lie in bed. Hope the stuff I have taken kicks in and takes the edge off until he returns at 4ish.I would only call f it got REALLY bad. But like I said, on Friday, I could hardly walk! :(

put cbeeies on and go to bed

FWIW I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I think your husband is being a selfish git.
I suffer migraines myself and to be honest unless someone suffers them themselves, they really have no idea just how debilitating they can be!

I get migraines too, Inky. I really feel for you. YANBU to expect your DH to come back if it gets full-blown. There is no way to look after children properly when you are in that state.

Get well soon x

YANBU at all, but will he be able to hear/answer his phone if he's playing? Depends on the sport I guess. Have you got some other support (friends/family) that you can lean on?

I wouldn't have thought you were being unreasonable to ask him not to go at all, tbh.

I agree - he is a selfish git. Nothing else to say really.

I hope you feel better soon OP

Thanks guys.

I would put cbeebes on, but the middle child has reached THAT stage where he is screamy/shouty and sooo cheeky and naughty, so while I would trust the 5 yr old, wouldnt trust him!!

He will be able to hear his phone.

Noone around to help out.

Grr. Ok I am going to set up a tray of snacks and turn the tv on so I dont need to move. Then lie on the couch with the baby. Hopefully I have taken enough to ward it off with some rest. It is a good sign that I can still look at the computer screen! Fingers crossed!

Ask him to bring you the Migarlieve back, you should be laying down in a dark room getting better. Not running around after children.

How selfish is he?

My dh rarely gets back from work early no matter what is happening. The only times he has done it is when dd2 broke her arm and I was at the hospital with her so he picked dd1 up from school or if I have a migraine.

If your migraine is really bad, have you tried syndol. It has paracetamol, codeine, caffeine and a muscle relaxant in it and I found it much better than migraleve.

YANBU he is being selfish. I have severe migraine as well and think alot of people who haven't ever had it don't understand that it isn't simply a headache but it is sheer agony. I often have to look after my DC, older ones are easy other than ferrying them to cubs etc but the toddler is into everything and I am up/down etc even with cbeebies on. Only thing that helps me is Syndol. It's better than the prescritpiton stuff i have tried.

ALWAYS keep some in, it's a lifesaver. It makes me drowsy but i can still look after the DC I just can't drive with it. I am drowsier with the actual migraine. They are fab when they kick in. Until it kicks in I put a really hot water bottle accross the forehead and lie on the couch. If I am stuck with no tablets then I call my mum or dad to get me some (they understand and they have migraine too). have you anyone else nearby who could pop out for some on occasion?

What a twat!"

If i said that to my husband he would say 'well i wont go to football then' and would stay home!

He is being an arse!! Hope your migrain relieves soon