to really wish my mum wouldn't treat my sister, who treats her and everyone else in the family like shit, like she is royalty.

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I am so fed up of my youngest sister treating everyone of us (my mum, nana, other sister and me) like rubbish and regardless of this my mum bends over backwards and fawns over her like she is bloody royalty.

Doesn't bother with anyone's birthdays including my mum's stood my ds up on his paid for per head birtday party and didn't bring her two ds's, didn't even let us know.

We hear from her before xmas and before her ds's birthdays. My mum will hear from her very occasionally when she asks her to babysit.

My mum is babysitting her two dcs tonight and has told my sis to have a lie in (must be nice). We are all putting the tree up at my mum's tomorrow, a yearly tradition and now my mum wil be in the kitchen burning and dropping food while my two nephews run round causing havoc and bullying their cousins while my mum pretends not to notice and youngest sis lays in bed at home in peace or smokes pot with her loser boyfriend. Me and other sis (who will be watching her own dcs) will tell them when they are becoming dangerous and eldest will sneer and ignore, my ds will hide upstairs in terror at the chaos (he's autistic) and tree won't get put up til everyone is well past it and ready to murder each other.

This is quite a rant sorry really needed to get it off my chest.

she sounds a nightmare

why is it the siblings who do the least and just take take take get treated the bloody best???

op, YANBU

It is annoying because me and my sis really put the effort in with my mum, see her regularly, take the dcs round which she loves, never ask her for money or what have you, invie her round for tea when she's feeling down/skint/ lonely. Sister treats her horribly and has her in tears with her lack of care (my mum has had a meal out and she's not turned up, no cards for birthdays, not had my mum in her house but kept her on the doorstep, I could go on) and yet little sis tells my mum to jump and my mum eagerly asks how high.

I think it annoys me and other sis so much as it has always been this way, as children she was the firm favourite and very spoilt compared to us two and it has turned her into a not very nice person who my mum can see no wrong with.

I can understand why you feel frustrated, but it's your mum's choice and that limits what you can actually do about changing the situation. It's very unfair. You'll not change her. You can only control how you deal with it. You can put up with it or you can say you know what, screw this! And just withdraw from your sister's life, and only see your mum when your sister won't be there. Or you can tell your mum how hurtful her favouritism is. Perhaps your mum just wants her daughter to love her so is trying to 'buy' that, whereas she knows that you love her - if that makes any sense?

sounds like your sis doesn't do much parenting either.My bro was the same,he lived 3 miles away and was mums golden child but she only saw him once a year about w week before xmas,he would get envelopes with money for the DCs and his wife +himself then go,didn't even stay an hour,maybe your mums a bit scared of your sis.

My mom AND Dad are like this with my Sister. She has always been the one to take more - and give less - and in their eyes this means that she needs more support from them.

Also, should me or my brother say anything we are immediately admonished for not being supportive enough to her! Unfortunately this has made her selfish and very demanding and doesn't recognise when people are being nice to her!

I have done what others here have. I don't phone her and don't speak to her very much - although we do keep in touch via text (much easier to ignore and not get angry!) I see her when I see my parents, but also arrange to see my parents when she is not there so that I get quality time with them - this means that when she is there I can just grin and bear it!!!

May be try something similar. Oh and about your nephews - I would try a similar tactic. It seems your DCs aren't that thrilled to be around them so wouldn't mind only limited contact with their cousins!!!

ITs funny- thats what happens in my family. My parents treated me like shit in the past altho were first to call on me when they needed something! Cue dear brother who treated them like shit and did nothing for them and they treat him like the sun shines out his a**e! Soo frustrating. So hard to handle. Sorry not much help but totally empathise.

We do have limited contact with her and this is very easy to be honest except for putting up the tree day once a year! Like I say she doesn't bother anyway unless she wants something. Me and my other sister are very close and similar personailties and we have both been stung enough by her in the past to already limit contact. Our dcs enjoy being together and play well/get on whereas once you add youngest sister's two boys into the mix you get a shouty fighty breaky room, it's horrible and stressful for all involved kids and adults.

I know it means a lot to my mum that we will all be there with our dcs, so I shall be going but will be arriving late and leaving early which is a shame as me and DS were both really looking forward to it as were my other sister and her 4 dcs.

It seems to be a common family problem doesn't it. I do think my mum just desperately tries to get her on side but it just makes me annoyed at both of them TBH.

YANBU, my situation sounds exactly the same as Weemee.

It's a shame but IME not something that's likely to change any time soon. The worse my brother behaves the more my Mum fawns all over him whilst my Dad sits there silently fuming but to scared to say anything .

No help but much sympathy!