For not ironing his shirt?

[RawDEal]

Last night dP came home from a christmas party and asked me if I'd ironed his work shirt for the next morning. I was in bed reading at the time and I said no, I'd forgotten. So he expected me to get up and go and do it! I refused. So he went in a massive strop and said he'd "remember" next time I wanted him to do something for me.
His reasoning is that he does loads for me but really, I don't see it. Yes he cooks most nights but thats because he INSISTS on it. He practically goes in a mood if I want to cook.
And yes he took me to work in car last week when the weather was bad but isn't that just common courtesy?? Everyone else at work was brought in by their partners in car, not exactly earth shattering gratitude needed, surely?
He is perfectly capable of ironing his own shirt. I do all of the ironing in the house other times but I'd had a lot on my mind these past few weeks, exams, assignments, uni applications, money, moving house, chistmas, son being bullied at school (got beat up on way home from school last night and he wondered why I forgot about the ffing shirt!?) and I forgot to iron his work shirts.
AIBU???

well if you had previously and specifically agreed to do it, I can understand some grumpiness
but not demands to get up and do it

generally speaking dh does his own stuff, as it should be

I'd have got up and ironed his shirt.

I would have left a fecking great iron-shaped hole in it though! He's taking the piss and needs to be told so IMHO.

Far more importantly than a grown man who needs a mummy to iron his shirt, how is your son now? I feel for you and for him, having had DD2 horrifically bullied for a hell of a long time and only now getting it sorted out with independent specialist help.

If this was my DP he'd be wearing the iron, nevermind his shirt

YANBU

Can't understand why some women can't seem to drive in the snow, and need their partner to come to the rescue. Jeez.

Maybe he can't seem to work an iron, and needs you to come to the rescue.

He should be able to iron his own shirt, and you should be able to drive yourself to work in the snow.

Depends of what agreement you have over who does what, but my husband would not in a million years expect me to iron his shirt. Nor would he strop if I forgot to do something. The ironing could be legit if, and only if, you have a fair agreement which means he is pulling equal weight. The strop, not on whatever.

I know im a bit of a push over,but at that time of night I dont want to argue I would have just done it.....its a 3 minte thing and keeps everyone sweet.

You did say you would do it.

Poor ds how is he today?

NowThen why do you assume OP usually drives herself? There are some people in the world who take public transport to work. Or walk.

Don't think forgetting to iron a shirt is that terrible - as long as you apologised then he's entitled to slight grumpiness but a 'massive strop' is OTT.

What an utter dick.

Make it crystal clear he's responsible for his own shirts from now on.

And tell him you'll cook in your own kitchen if you damn well choose.

I am capable of driving the car in the snow but parking in the city centre is a nightmare and would cost a fortune - PLUS - shock horror - he NEEDS the car, even when he's not at work himself, he needs the car - just incase he decides to pop out to shop - god forbid he use public transport like I usually have to every day.

And yeah there is a bit of an agreement on the ironing but it was a one off at a time when I've had loads on my mind.

Valhalla - DS seems to be ok now thanks, the whole thing was witnessed by another parent and I went to see her last night and she had already planned to go into school on Monday to report it so now we're going in together. I should have moved Ds's school a long time ago. He's been falling in with the wrong crowd for too long, getting into trouble, turning into a mini-tearaway and as soon as he tried to pull himself away from it all (after seeing one of his friends very close to an arrest) they all turned on him I'm phoning another school on Monday to ask about places.

So you're supposed to be grateful for things he does to please himself?

He sounds like a selfish, controlling knobhead.

Only an utter cock would expect someone to get out of bed past midnight to iron their shirt.

YANBU.

This is 2010 FGS!!

I hope your DS is OK.

RawDEal, no need to list all the things you/him do, you were settled in bed reading....so no, YANBU.

My DH would have had his shirt ironed, but he would have also been wearing the shirt, the iron and the ironing board as well as recovering from being hit over the head with said ironing board. But then, he would never have demanded/expected me to get up and iron his shirt at that time of night and most certainly would not have thrown a strop if I had refused to do it.

YA definitely NBU.

YABU. You need a vagina to iron a shirt. Everyone knows that.

Valhalla - please don't do that, I nearly had a heart attack!

If it was something I normally did (not a fuking chance but there you go ) then I would have felt bad for not having done it and we probably would have compromised - one of us would do it while the other made a hot drink or did something else or he would have just gone and done it with a bit of a groan - but only a groan at having to do it, not because I hadn't done it - if you see what I mean. There is no way he would complain and absolutely no way he'd ask or expect me to get out of bed to do it.

chipmonk :o

I'm concerned that there must be a big crease down the middle of my vagina, because that's how things I iron end up.

I think DH was relieved when my MN-inspired maternity leave phase of ironing his shirts ended when I went back to work.

He'd be looking at these dog's dinner shirts and looking at me quizzically saying "why did you do this?" :o