to have taken away my ds advent sweets

[ocdgirl]

Ds age 5 has been a right pain getting school in the mornings and this morning was refusing to wear his hi-vis jacket. tbh it became a bit of a battle of wills (i know iabu for this) i gave hime several warnings not to remove the jacket and told him of the consequence if he did and he removed it anyway so i have come home and removed all the candy canes out of his advent stockings. i now feel a bit mean but i know i have to carry it through but dh thinks i should give him the chance to earn them back in a couple of days, what does everyone else think ??

thanks x

Eat them. I told DD that her jelly babies had walked away.

yanbu to remove them because you said you would but imo yabu to choose that consequence as it lasts 2.5 weeks!

kreecher

Problem with christmas themed threats is, as soon as christmas is over you're back to square one

Dunno if you're unreasonable or not tho

I'd be tempted to put them all back BUT make actually getting them conditional on your DS having worn his hi-vis jacket that day.

Being punished every day for a fortnight seems a bit harsh, but he'll get the chance to earn them back, right?

thanks, Unmentioned i agree and i wish i had not chose that consequence, but smaller consequences have no impact on him as he'll openly admit he doesn't care

Earning back sounds fair enough to me. As bad actions have bad consequences, so good actions have good ones. It also demonstrates you are firm but fair rather than a Mean Cruel Mama.

yes i'll let him earn them back but i'm worried that next time he has to have a consequence he'll not care because he'll know he's going to get it back again

So let him earn them back one day at a time.
That way you have about 15 chances to reinforce your message.

thanks for all your replies

we've just got in from school and he says he's not bothered !!! so we'll just have to see what he's like tomorrow