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and mean and lazy and scrooge-like?

18 replies

AlistairSim · 08/12/2010 15:18

DD is in Y1, she has already started bringing home Christmas cards.

I really don't want to go out and buy a load of cards and sit with her whilst she writes them.
Plus trying to remember ALL the children in her class plus half the ones in another class.

WIBU to just send one large card to the whole class and teacher from her or will that make her a social pariah?

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nextchapter · 08/12/2010 15:25

I think you'll just have to grin and bear it and send individual cards, it would seem a little ungrateful if you didnt as all the other parents have gone to the effort. If you can't remember the names of the children you should be able to get your hands on the class list if you dont already have one

Onetoomanycornettos · 08/12/2010 15:39

Well, start with the ones she has already brought home and write those ones with her first. Then help her write the ones for the other names she can remember, then give up, that's what I do every year!

Onetoomanycornettos · 08/12/2010 15:40

As for the cost aspect, lots of the cheap shops have 30 cards for 1.99, I got 30 for 1.49 today in a sale in the Sue Ryder charity shop and my children will be using those.

readinginsteadnow · 08/12/2010 15:42

If you're really bothered, just get a class list. Tell dd she can only send what she wants to write herself, thats what I've always done. I means only the special friends get cards, and not some much ridiculous paper waste.

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AlistairSim · 08/12/2010 15:44

So, basically I am Scrooge then?

Bumhats.

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SantasENormaSnob · 08/12/2010 15:50

Yes you are being Scrooge like and very unreasonable Grin

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AlistairSim · 08/12/2010 16:03

Bah. Humbug.

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FindingAManger · 08/12/2010 16:17

DD (aged 3) started talking to me about buying Christmas presents for "all my friends" - I am buying for CM's daughter who she spends alot of time with and her cousins but that is it. She thinks she's giving GIFTS to everyone she know!!!

(no issue with Santa bringing ALL the presents with her then Grin)

pottonista · 08/12/2010 16:30

Buy some charity Christmas cards. They're generally cheaper than the Hallmark variety AND donate money to worthy causes. And get a class list.

Bah humbug! Grin

Niecie · 08/12/2010 16:34

No don't bother with the whole class! Just do a card for the ones who have already sent a card and any special friends your DD mentions. That is what everybody round here seems to do. Certainly don't get a card from the whole class for DS2 (DS1 in Yr 6 and they CBA by that age and hardly write any).

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AlistairSim · 08/12/2010 18:41

This is going to be stressful.

I may start praying for a week of snow days.

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ProfYaffle · 08/12/2010 18:46

I'm kind of surprised that everyone has such easy access to class lists, we're not allowed a list of names. Not exactly sure what mayhem your average parent could cause with one but I assume it's fairly cataclysmic.

The only time one is posted is the last few days of the summer term so you know which class your child is in. Savvy parents take a photo of it and establish a jpeg black market.

ProfYaffle · 08/12/2010 18:46

Posted on the notice board I mean.

minipie · 08/12/2010 18:49

As I recall, when I was primary age and below, some children sent cards to the whole class, some to just a few, and some to no-one. (I was in category 3)

Have things changed? does every child now send cards to every other child?

If not, I don't think you she has to do christmas cards at all, and certainly not to the whole class.

Seona1973 · 08/12/2010 18:50

we were allowed a class list last year but are not allowed one this year for some sort of child protection reason. DD has 30 children in her class and I doubt she will remember all their names. She will probably just send to her friends and to her teacher. DS is at nursery and will probably just send cards to the other children in his group (8 including him). Last year dd did do the whole class (when we had the list) but the year before I just got a card for the class and dd made one for the teacher.

create · 08/12/2010 18:57

The trouble is, if she doesn't send any (many) she won't get many back. Very poor reason to do it, but judging by the number of suggestions above that you just do the children she's received one from, children who don't send any won't get any!! And it does matter to the children.

If you can't get/make a list from your own knowledge get her to do as many as she can remember, but it is important IMO that she writes them herself.

When DS1 was in reception, I knew most of the children and I knew there were 24 in the class. Between us we had a list of 23. I spent days trying to find out who I'd missed.

It was DS1 !! Don't do that Smile

zukiecat · 08/12/2010 20:44

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EvilTwinsAteRudolph · 08/12/2010 20:48

God, I won't be doing this. My DTDs are in Reception and I hadn't even thought about sending cards. Trying to get them to write their names in 30 cards would take forever...

On the subject of class lists, though, we were given one when they started, but two children were swapped. My girls have been to several birthday parties this term, and parents have obviously used the class list for invitations as the girl who was moved out of my DTD's class has been the only one from the other reception class there. I feel a bit sorry for the child she swapped with - I guess he's being left off the invitation list Sad

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