to think this was nasty

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I went out for dinner with my sister and brother tonight and we ended up talking about my brothers love life. My sister then launched into a long speech why she wouldn't go out with him and why if he doesn't change his ways he'll end up a lonely old man (he's only 23). My brother isn't perfect he has his flaws but it clearly upset him but she carried on regardless. I just texted to say I think she was mean and she said said it was for his own good and its time he heard some cold hard truths.

How old is the perfect one?

I want to go out with him just to prove the nasty cow that she's wrong.

Sadly I wouldn't up his street cred!

Was it you that posted something similar a while ago? If not, there's another nasty sister out there who did exactly the same thing - the concensus was that the poster should let us see a photo of her brother and we would say what we honestly thought - but in the end it was decided that even though we had good intentions, it wasn't a good idea!

Anyway, just tell your brother that your sister speaks for herself and not all women - there are plently of young girls who love slim, quiet, lovely lads!

YANBU who does she think she is laying into her younger brother in a public place. If he's lacking in confidence and a bit shy how would this have helped

Poor guy, I hate it when people give condescending lectures like this. Tell your brother he should have no problem finding a gf/wife.

Why didn't you say something OP

YANBU

I have a sister who likes to do similar things to me. I don't bother with her any more.

Your brother sounds like my DS actually.. tall, very skinny, shy - the girls at uni adore him!

Yanbu

perhaps someone should mention your sisters faults. You know, it's for her own good her saggy arse and chunky thighs are brought to attention.

If she thinks he is too shy and doesn't have enough confidence how does laying into him in public help

YANBU I would have intervened and stopped

YADNBU shes sounds cruel if shes going to say this to her own brother

My husband is super skinny and when I met him he was painfully shy, I think he is really gorgeous and I'm glad he's not a cocky twat.

DH was painfully thin, very shy and lacking in confidence when we met. Fortunately I have width, outgoingness and confidence for the pair of us! We've been married for 15 years and he is still gorgeous!

Your sister sounds very mean and unkind. DH has 3 sisters who are all lovely - they would never have dreamt of saying things like that.

DH is very skinny and lacking in confidence. he has blossomed (and put on weight) since meeting me!

It is difficult to manage conversations between siblings, so I can understand why you didn't intervene at the time.

However, my DS fits that description and I know my DD would never have said anything like that to him. That's not being a bossy sibling, that's being cruel. It wasn't "for his own good" at all.

Maybe he should thank her for pointing all that out, now he knows what he needs to do in order to avoid picking up a harpy like her.

Ouch siblings can be the harshest critics.

Tell him that his sisters views aren't gospel and theres a girl out there for him

Siblings talking about each others love lives!

Yuch