AIBU or am I going crazy?

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Help me get some perspective. DP and I have a friend, who I am currently having a massive argument with.

This is the background - a couple of weeks ago, he was at a loss one friday night, so we invited him around for dinner. It was so nice, we decided to do it again. He lent us his hot plate to keep food warm. We agreed that we'd host it the first week, then he'd host it the next week.

Week 1 - I plan the menu and head off to the shops. DP gets phone call from friend "why hasn't abs called me? I need to tell her what to buy". DP says it's too late, I'm already at the shops, we'll talk later. When I get home (heaving shopping bags), I call friend to discuss, and he's decided that we HAVE to have x and y, so he heads off to Tesco to buy it but tells me "if someone's hosting, they should do everything". I do all the cooking
Week 2 - somehow, I can't remember how, we end up hosting again. Friend this time agrees to bring salads and wine, then asks last minute if he can bring another friend along, which is fine, because we really like the other guy. We provide the main course, plus some wine, host it in our flat, I do all the cooking.
Week 3 - Friend says he'll host. It comes to Thursday, and it turns from - us buying the starters to us buying everything and I do the cooking. Friend brings wine. By this point, I'm thinking this is a bit ridiculous. Friend is very apologetic, sorry sorry, I'll do everything next week. I vow to DP that all we're providing is wine.
Week 4 - this is supposed to be friend's week. I texted him earlier to ask how things are going. He goes "what should I get?" I respond "everything bar wine". He then comes back with (and I totally should have bet on this, as I knew it would happen) "I'll get the salads and some fish; I've had a really busy week and haven't had time. Could you get the main course?" I say no I can't - I'm very busy this evening, won't have a chance, I'm not his f*ing slave. Admittedly, I went a bit overboard with the swearing. DP started a new job this week, I've been crazy busy - it's not just friend who's in this situation. He then comes back - "stop being so ridiculous. I've done half the work. There's no reason to be so rude". We are now having a MASSIVE argument.

now ladies. AIBU or is he?

But if he's fun and good company, don't throw the baby out with the bathwater, he's not evil, just needs to be made to behave. And do show him the thread.

It could be. For some reason it does taste different (shamelessly admits to having eaten non-kosher chicken). It could also be because she used a special soup chicken? (there is such a difference right?) or else included the giblets when making the soup, which helps add a richer flavour.

Ah yes I think the giblets would have gone in. The chicken used to come from market and the eggs (from inside) used to go in too (I remember them to this day - one whole, one with a thin shell and then a yolk and a smaller yolk. Also it was a boiling chicken which you can't get from the supermarket - yet I think that's why.

perhaps Mr Shameless needs it all putting in bullet points for him like you did earlier, ie Week One I bought everything
week two I bought everything
Week three etc etc. then I'd tell him that you will be enjoying dinner with DH and you hope he enjoys his starter and salad. but then I hate people who take the piss!

We're doing that. Mr Shameless just sent me the following message
"just make a list of stuff I have been bringing and stuff you have been bringing and you will see my point [i don't bloody think so] ... sometimes when people get angry they don't think straight and they are sure they are right [hands Mr Shameless giant mirror to have a good look at himself]"

Love the nickname by the way ..

LOVE him. Want lessons.

I'd just text him and say, 'hi, this arrangement hasn't worked for us. Happy to come to dinner at yours another time or you to ours but not with this arrangement. It all seems to have moved beyond a normal dinner party arrangement...