Would really like to know if people think IABU about this.
Every year my dc school hold a carol concert at the local church. They do two shows. The first is during the school day and all the children walk the mile or so from the school to the church and back. They are escorted by staff and parent helpers.
The other show is in the evening after school. All the children are expected to be at both concerts.
The problem I have is that DH is working so is not available to transport ds and dd to the concert in the evening. I have 4 other dc at home. The school only give two tickets per family so taking all the family in the evening is not an option.
I only have two available babysitters my eldest dd and my dm.
DD is working and DM has just left hospital so neither is available.
I had this same problem last year so didn't send dc to the evening concert. The next day I found out that all the children that had attended the evening concert were rewarded with chocolate and extra break time. I felt this was really unfair as it was me that didn't send my dc so I felt they were being punished unfairly. I made my feelings very clear to the school and thought they would be a little more flexible in future.
But we have just received a letter telling us as usual all children are expected at both concerts.
Sorry this is so long. If you have managed to get to the end AIBU to not send the dc again.
The worst thing is they love going and felt really left out last year when everyone else was praised for "making the effort to attend both concerts".