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to want to know does this happen to everyone

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adrenalinejunkie · 30/11/2010 22:42

over the past year and a half i have got married had a baby and am now buying a house ,my friends and i joked we are all growing up but still felt eighteen inside and it has slowly began to dawn on me that i am changing and its quite scary , here are a few examples
my first night out in a year and while i had a good (and wild!) night out i couldnt help thinking i would rather be at home.

I now want to look classy rather than tarty,a big thing for me it used to be how little clothing could i get away with .

i tut at music videos and think it is awful that women like beyonce have amazing talent yet are still reduced to flashing their crotch in every video.

i would rather read quality journalism than heat
i no longer care about celebrities, i dont want to be one and i have accepted i will never look like one.
but most of all i dont apologise for the things i like and no longer feel i have to agree with others to fit in
what made you realise you were growing up
and what age did it happen for you (im twenty seven)

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SantasNutellaFairy · 30/11/2010 22:43

I was about 18Blush

psychomum5 · 30/11/2010 22:45

I hit it at about 21, got back into being a slut 18yr old again at 30 until I was 31 (minor midlife crisis I reckonWink), and am back to being old again now (am 37), altho with a classy element of the inner slut being released againWinkGrin

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FetchezLaVache · 30/11/2010 22:48

I suppose it was when it first became in vogue for young gentlemen to wear their trousers belted low, so that their arses hang out and they have to walk like they have shat themselves. I so utterly failed to see any appeal in this look that I realised I could no longer fool myself I was at any level still down with the kids. Must have been about thirty. My first Volvo estate followed soon afterwards.

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adrenalinejunkie · 30/11/2010 22:49

forgot to say i wear a coat when i go out now , im from newcastle its practically unforgivable! must say i do feel smug when im wrapped up in my coat watching the other half naked people (who laughed at my coat) freeze

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SandStorm · 30/11/2010 22:51

I think the seeds were sown when I was about 19 and my friends and I were having dinner, discussing garden centres in a serious fashion.

FunkySnowSkeleton · 30/11/2010 22:52

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Fernie3 · 30/11/2010 22:54

I was talking about this with my husband a few days ago we are both 27 we were 20 when we had our first child and we just had our fourth. We were saying that having our first baby we felt like totally different people I look back and my whole outlook on everything was different. Now i am interested in things which would have bored me stupid back then and yet it was only 7 years ago. I think the real change has happened in the last 3 years.
When my daughter was born I didn't sound a single minute thinking of starting a savings account for her i didn't consider breastfeeding her at all and i didn't spend hours agonising over whether or not I should co sleep. My fourth baby breastfeeds, co sleeps and has a savings account ( as do my older children now i haven't just given my youngest one - that would be mean). Oh did i mention that i now use cloth nappies because i want to save the environment - yup how I've changed and become someone i would have laughed at 7 years ago Blush

SparkleSoiree · 30/11/2010 22:55

19 when I fell pregnant for the first time.

Fernie3 · 30/11/2010 22:57

I've just realised i joined mumsnet around 3 years ago - possibly a connection there!

FooffysFestiveShmooffery · 30/11/2010 22:59

I felt that I had grown up when I got married and moved out of home at 26 but had a wierd little epiphany on my last birthday (36) with regards to realising I should dress how I am comfortable and don't need to impress anybody other than those who really matter. Feel more liberated in that sense this year.

maktaitai · 30/11/2010 23:00

The first time a friend told me she was pregnant/getting married and I thought 'Oh great' instead of 'You what????'

Think I was 26.

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adrenalinejunkie · 30/11/2010 23:03

funkysnowskeleton its funny you say that about company an hour ago i was skimming through a copy i had been given (no money to spend since ds came along) and a while ago i would have loved it but i was flicking through thinking i cant identify with anything in here whats happened to me.
i am actually more excited about interiors magazines at the minute , never thought i would see the day

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booyhoo · 30/11/2010 23:08

yep. happened me at 21. well actually it happened before that but it only dawned on me at 21. had ds at 19 so i think that made me grow up.

mylittlemonkey · 30/11/2010 23:34

Took me a bit longer. Not sure exactly when but am 33 now and definately crept up on me over the past 2 years and esp when had DS in March. I was pretty wild before but i absolutely love being more settled, nights in, no hangovers, going for long walks and days out rather than hungover on settee, wearing flats rather than skyscrapers (still wear them at work but dont really go with the pram), talking about my DS with other mums all day long, having friends round to dinner rather than meeting at bar in town and sandwich for dinner, collecting receipes, decorating my home - i could go on and on. I enjoy it as much as i did my youth, more actually!! It all means more when you have kids.

recipefordisaster · 01/12/2010 01:30

Happened to me by the time I was 19 and had my first, tbh. People often say that's too young to be having a child, but the very fact of having one made me more mature. I think others who have children later tend to extend their own childhoods just because they can, and assume that everyone else is going to be as immature as them.

lovereading · 01/12/2010 01:41

I went through a phase of that when I first became a Mother, as time has gone on I have relaxed a great deal and feel I have a better ballance now, I am sure you will too.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 01/12/2010 08:25

When DD was born. I was 37.

DanZZZenAroundTheTreeAgain · 01/12/2010 08:30

I'm stillwaiting to feel grown up tbh with you and I am older than you a-junkie

poorbuthappy · 01/12/2010 08:31

When I was 30 and in hospital when pregnant. DH came in and announced that he had bought the car I wanted. We had bought an estate car which previously had signified old responsible to us!

Going out has become a military operation, which quite frankly sometimes I could do without. So we just open a nice bottle of red and argue about what to put on the tele. Wink

poorbuthappy · 01/12/2010 08:31

bloody hell I can not do strike through at all...old
Hey my bold worked though!

poorbuthappy · 01/12/2010 08:32

what is the matter with me?

old

note to self...don't try strike though or italics...stick with bold...and learn where the preview button is...

DanZZZenAroundTheTreeAgain · 01/12/2010 08:33

the problem with striking out is you have to strike out every word.

so "get lost" is hypengethyphen hypenlosthypen IYSWIM

FreudianFoxSquishedByAPouffe · 01/12/2010 08:34

About 16. I grew up fast.

I think the main thing for me was meeting my now DH - he loves me for ME. We had our first when I was 20 and I am very much just 'me' I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks :)