When she died the church was so full that there were people standing out the door, we had people travelling from all over to pay their respects to her and tell us stories of how she had touched their lives.
She was a sahm her whole life, she left uni got married had kids. She was looked down on by some people for the choices she made and although i don't think she regretted those choices i think it did hurt her that people saw her as a failure, when i was a teenager and by that point she was very Ill she asked me If it had made any difference to me that she had stayed home i gave a stupid teenage grunty response - she died 3 days later without me telling her that the things she taught me about life about being a woman and mother are the most precious lessons i have learnt everything from how to make pastry to the belief that wearing makeup is an act of oppression against women.
I have read so many posts on here which belittle her life choices and this is just my attempt to say my mum was amazing, her choices were perfect for her life and for her family and tha is all that matters - she would still only be 50 if she was alive today so may well have been a mumsnetter herself i would like to think she would stick up for her choices far better than i stick up for mine.
Its four in the morning i have been breastfeeding for an hour so excuse this nonsensical post i just have to do it as some posts recently have made me so upset and sad.