to find this a bit sordid?

[Gretelpetal]

A fellow mum told me as a jolly anecdote that her teenage son's 'reward' after GCSEs was a few nights in a local hotel with his girlfriend (they both live in the same city). This after having heavily criticised other parents in the past for allowing their teenage daughters to go on the pill. My daughters are only little - is this why I find the whole thing a bit eewww?

Mmmmm, it is not the first reward I would think of.

Maybe they had separate rooms and just enjoyed the spa facilities and fine dining together?

Eewww! YANBU.

What's wrong with the back seat / local park? Kids these days don't know they're born.

They are sixteen, right? It's nice that she paid for them to spend some time together. If they are going to 'do it' better that the parents know, and don't treat it as 'ew' as they might end up in trouble, confused, unable to talk to anyone and thinking sex is 'ew'.

Okay, I could probably have worded that better.

I don't think sex is ewww. I think that managing your childrens' sex life definitely is a bit ewwww.

I also think there is a time and a place for romantic weekends in hotels and that is not appropriate for teenagers. Come on, they don't NEED them. They have EVERYTHING on their side already - looks, slenderness, raging hormones. They don't need fluffy towels spa baths and nice big beds to have sex in. They should be reserved for ME and all the other tired busy overworked middle-aged people.

Know some friends who threw an 18th for their son and seems his friends got him a stripper and it was a bit racy - all in front of his parents and their friends and his 13yr old sister. I was a bit Eewww - but maybe I'm just getting on a bit.

I wouldn't see this as 'managing' their children's sex lives, I think this might be a case of the mind it goes into, not the mouth it comes out of iyswim.

YANBU

it is very "eww" to be involved in your child's sex life like that.

You're right, partly it was the 'managing' thing that bothered me, also the talking about her child's sex life to, I felt, show how cool she was as a parent. Grim.

YaDnbu.

And who would want their mum that 'involved' too?? It'd certainly take the excitement out of it for me.

Part of the thrill of it all in those days was knowing my parents would've hit the roof.

If they'd organised the hotel room it turns the whole thing into a PLAYDATE. Aargh!

I think there is a big difference LeQueen. A weekend in Paris suggests culture , sightseeing, nice restaurants etc Your Dad could focus on that part. A couple of nights in a local hotel however, suggest shagging, tacky underwear and a full English.

Different, non?