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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be so over the baby bit?

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carocaro · 29/11/2010 18:10

Have two children aged 4 and 9, a few friends have had their first or second babies recently.

All the smells and crap they create. Not forgetting the crawling one's. Had some over today and they wrecked my house. One had nasty cradle cap that really smelt and the mother in question thought it OK for me to hold the baby for ages! And the other had a toddler with a big plop and it took her half and hour to change him; I had to open a window it was vile.

I've been there and done it and I don't like other peoples messy food squashing into the floor, dribbling, poo stinking babies and wrecking toddlers. They won't be coming again. And they did not clear up their crud before leaving, which I used to do.

AIBU to be so over that stage?

OP posts:

JamieLeeCurtis · 29/11/2010 22:13

Yes, put your post was about inconsiderate parents of babies, not babies per se, so you did confuse the issue a bit by making it about babies

JamieLeeCurtis · 29/11/2010 22:13

.. sorry that was yes but etc

kittywise · 29/11/2010 22:14

What you 'friends' did was rude. Plain and simple .It has not much to do with babies here. if they'd had older children who'd wrecked your house then they'd have been rude, just the same.
Christ fancy letting your baby sit in shit for half an hour, what a lazy mare. {vomit}
There must be a lot of mothers reading this who don't clear up their kids' mess when they visit other people's houses. Perhaps they are the ones getting riled?

smellmycheese · 29/11/2010 22:19

I wasn't refering to just you personally actually OP, although some of the words you have used to describe your friends babies are far from 'loving'
I've just always been quite surprised at how many people on a popular parenting forum have such little empathy or understanding of those with babies.

And, since you asked, saying that they won't be welcome back in your house is kinda turning on them IMO.

FWIW, some of the behaviour you've described from your friends is awful, but I think you should be blaming them as people, rather than blaming the fact they have babies.

Tori27 · 29/11/2010 22:21

I hate it when other people's kids shove my child's toys in their mouths and leave teeth marks on them. I was lucky that DD never did this, and wasn't a dribbler. DD got some wooden cakes for her 2nd birthday and her 2-year-old friend left his mark on them which his mum thought was funny!

I think it was her reaction that annoyed me more than the child's actions.

woolymindy · 29/11/2010 22:21

I agree it is annoying - I have a lot of children (two of whom are toddlers and babies) so don't go anywhere really as it is a big noise and mess for other people - that said you sound like a miserable and intolerant old bag to be honest.

Cheer up love, in the scheme of things is it really a problem?

JamieLeeCurtis · 29/11/2010 22:23

Tori - "Teething Child in Developmentally-Appropriate Behaviour Shock"

BalloonSlayer · 29/11/2010 22:23

I do think YANBU, as I was sooo over the baby bit too then got accidentally pregnant again (so bewaaaaaare, OP )

However I put up with my sisters' and friends' babies breaking my things and my sisters and friends themselves boring me to death with how many ounces they took and how many poos they had done. Yet when I had my babies at last they weren't interested and I didn't get the chance to return the boredom favour.

The first friend in my circle to have children - we all went to her babies' Christenings and made a big fuss. When we had babies, lets just say that she didn't return the effort.

RockinRobinBird · 29/11/2010 22:28

So as suspected your problem was with the eejit adults and not the poor child you were apparently hog-tied to and forced to hold all afternoon, you know, the one who offended your delicate little nostrils. Or the poor little sod whose mother made him sit in shit till she could be arsed to change him. You know what you could have done? Hey, chuck me a nappy and I'll change him if you want.

Sounds to me like you sat there and did nothing to help or change the situation but saved it up to do a bit of bitching about small children on here. Far more fun.

PrematureEjoculation · 29/11/2010 22:31

although yes, babies aren't that great - nor are toddlers. but other people's go away!

the things you complain of aren't entirely reasonable though. babies are messy. if i have other peoples kids round, i expect to do a bit of tidying up afters.

socialising with tiny kis in tow is a pain - but asking a friend to hold a baby isn't a abad thing (some people love holding babies, even smelly ones)

the joy of not having your own small kids: they have now gone.

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