stepsis wedding to go or not to go!!

[Eve34]

Not sure if this is AIBU or not - but would welcome opinions.

My step sis is getting married in sept next year. I am thrilled for them both it is going to be a really lovely day.

It is a vey exclusive venue seating only for 50 people.

My dad married some 20 years ago. And although i consider them all family I am not at all close to my step sisters.

AIBU to suggest she might like to invite someone closer to her and hubby to be rather than me DP and DS?

I am not big on weddingd it is going to be VERY posh and new outfit etc will be needed.

WWUD??

thanks

I'd go. She obviously thinks enough of you to invite you, so why not go and share the enjoyment of her lovely day?

oh and have 4 year from hell who will not sit still for one moment will be in every photo and be a right pickle (love him)under the dress, poking the cake in and out of the tables you know the kinda thing.

thank you Fay but think she will invite us out of duty and 50 places really isn't many but thank you for the reply.

Maybe mention to your dad that you are glad to be invited but that you wouldn't be offended if she would rather the spaces were used for someone she's closer to. Probably better that than directly reject an invitation. I'd be hurt if someone I'd invited decided not to come to my wedding, no matter how well-meaning.

lol@ 4yr old under the dress and poking the cake in. Maybe you could get a babysitter and go without the DC, thus freeing up one space and letting you have a day to enjoy yourselves too?

the 4 year old sounds more like an excuse for getting out of what you dont want to do.

Had my step siblings told me they didnt want to come to my wedding I would have been very hurt. at the time my father had "only" been married to their mother for 12 years.

Get a new dress and work it up a bit work on your 4 year olds manners if you really think he will do those things. That will frankly aid him in the long run no one wants to have a boy crawling up their dresses..

I'd just politely decline the invite and be honest with her about how you feel. Could you suggest something special to do instead for her - maybe a day our at a spa or a smart meal for all the sisters and stepsisters?

Thank you ladies think I will make a day of it and sit on DS :-) know it is going to be a lovely day - got plenty of time to diet too!!!!