... to be cross at given 6 days notice to be "glam" 5 weeks after birth?

[Towanmummies]

ok, meal next friday planned with DP's 5 female ex-workmates, who i love dearly and who have happily accepted me as one of the gang that DP has been in for ages. all good.
text from one of them last night- "btw, we've decided to go glamorous and dress up, because we don't get the chance very often."
FFS this woman had a baby earlier this year- does she not realise that 5 weeks after DS1andonly my tummy wobbles and my previously 36B has turned into 36E making almost all of my clothes unwearable?? DP is so cross and protective it's sweet. but really- are we being unreasonable??

www.autostraddle.com/top-10-lesbian-fashion-style-icons/ Maybe you can put something together, can you wear a jacket you already have and just keep it open? Add a kerchief/choker, some nice shoes, pants or take in your maternity jeans, voila.

YABU What were you planning on wearing before you heard that they were planning on glamming up? A tracksuit covered in baby sick? Enjoy a well deserved night out!

Glam does not mean thin/6 pack etc. YABU.

YABU, it's not the law that you have to look like shit for months after you have a baby! I was a bridesmaid 5 weeks after DS was born, yes I was really fat but so what - DH took DS out for a bit so I could do my hair and makeup, I wore good knickers and looked pretty nice. Stop being silly!

Wear reindeer antlers... no-one will look at your tummy!

god - I'm 3 1/2yrs post baby and my tummy still wobbles

Just saw your post. OK, get a new bra and spanx. Get a new pair of trousers that you're happy with the fit of- wide leg tweed or boy cut jeans. You should have a pair you're happy with regardless of the 'do'. Then it will be a lot easier to try to find a top.

oh dear, I think the poor girls are actually probably trying to be nice and think a glam night our will make you feel better about yourself!

Iron knickers, black skirt, good bra and glam top usually works for me. I haven't solved my wobbly tummy problem in 14 years

I don't get the problem either. I think you're being over sensitive. A nice bra is what you want to be getting around now anyway, and it's not too hard to glam up more staple clothes. Or if money isn't too bad a great excuse to buy something nice (treat it like a wedding).

Though it is a bit short notice, YANBU on that front.

Fuck them..maternity jeans and a nice top and heels will do. I they love you they will understand.

Trust me..I still have friends and my DD is 9 months old and I have still not had a night out!!!

New Look have a big sale on til Sunday.
Heaps of party glam things, including maternity things if you want things that are cut to flatter a rounded tummy.
Although the site seems to be a bit wobbly at the moment...

I agree with the jeans/heels/cheap new sparkly top cut to show off fab bouncy knockers and flow over tummy advice.

You're reacting like they suggested a bikini party and invited a photographer.

Wash your hair, put some eyeliner on and you'll be fine.

yabu but understandably so - I felt fab and lush after 1st 2 dc's - but crap after no 3 - Its very personal and a bit much expecting them to be psychic about how you feel.

Don't take it as an insult, take it as a chance to be treated as an adult in your own right rather than someone's mummy.

Agree, fitting bra, tunic top (ideally that floats over the belly and when the belly reduces you'll still be able to wear), with either jeans that fit you (go buy some, cost per wear for the next 6 month will make it worth it!) or some leggings (v cheap), get your old 'going out' shoes out the back of the wardrobe and do your hair and makeup. Everyone will spend the night saying how good you look considering you've just had a baby.

Oh, and tip from going out at similar post-baby date, do your DS's last feed in just your bra and pant (with make up and hair done). Throw on outfit after settling down DS. That way, if he throws up (which due to sod's law, he will) it's easier to quickly clean that off skin than your new outfit.

YABU and the fact that a couple of them have had babies recently proves that!!

I went to a wedding when DD was 5 days old - milk leaking everywhere and spanx going above and beyond the call of duty trying desperately to hold in my tummy which had barely had a chance to go down.

I looked pretty terrible, but it was actually really fun to get dressed up, go out and have fun, and most importantly have a glass or two of champagne.

Embrace it and enjoy!!

don't panic. magic knickers, loads of make up. and go shopping for a new outfit that fits you! you should go, you will have a good night i bet.

yabu

sorry

I don;t think it's either YANBU or YABU

IME (and heck I have 4 LOL- it's quite enough ) it's actually quite good for the soul to get a bit dressed up and adult after the birth and go out (unless youc an;t becuase of EBF etc but you were planning to go anyway I gathered?).

But then I was the woman putting on war paint make up in her hospital bed hours after being induced with ds1 due to eclampsia and fitting; weird as actually I only normally wear it for occasions.

OTOH it's just not that easy if you don;t have a frock (though if you're wearing a size 18 or 16 I can help as I have plenty as I have just lost weight and Ic an;t wear them so happy to loan something?- or ebay)