tell me YANU for being upset with DH leaving me with all three children...

[Babieseverywhere]

....when the poor man is very ill :(

We have both been ill on and off for a week. D&V bug(s). We both felt on the mend yesterday, even ate a proper meal together last night, big mistake.

I spent nearly all last evening/night on the toilet with running foaming (WTF) poo, finally got to sleep early in the morning and have managed to get 3 hours fitful sleep. Before getting up with all three children 4 years, 2 years and breastfed 3 month old baby.

They are ignoring me and running riot and the very good quiet baby is upset too...I am just so tired and fedup.

I was hopeing my now vomitting DH would be able to feeble co-parent from a downstairs sofa with a sick bowl. Thinking that two crappy parents might be effective enough to calm the children. But he isn't well enough and is sleeping in bed. I know I am being unreasonable but I want to shout at him, I need some help here :(

On the bright side I took nearly a days worth of anti poo pills last night and I am down to bad cramps and feeling crap but no pooing so far this morning (fingers crossed)

I am so sick of feeling ill and I am pretty sure it is my lack of gall bladder which turns any illness into a veritful poo fest.

Is there anyone else you could possibly call on for help for a couple of hours so that you can both collapse?
I remember this "competitive illness/tiredness" thing when ours were too young to sort themselves out. Nothing makes you want to kill your other half more violently. Their ailments always seem to trump ours.

Second DVD/Cbeebies. Let them do whatever really - you can sort out any mess when you are feeling better.

Actually if you are both as bad as you sound, it might be better to let DH rest for a bit, then ask him to take over in a few hours so you can rest.

I remember such a day when we both had food poisoning (DH kept throwing up and I was too weak to even stand). Twas hell on earth but you do get through it ...

He was up for several hours alternating the bathroom with me, but then I was up for a few hours on my own (he went to spare room) so I assume he got more sleep than me. But he is still running to the bathroom this morning (poor love)

I am hopeing that a couple of hours sleep will allow him to come downstairs, we'll have to see. It is more for the adult company and sympathy than the parenting, as I am a SAHM and use to the children on my own.

The children are destroying the dining room with the toys everywhere. Luckily I tidied up last night so they started from a clean room, plus baby fell asleep in her basket, that is much better.

I am going to ring my DM for a moan chat, it would be unfair to ask her to take the kids as she helps out when I ask and they are recovering from a bug themselves.

Oh you poor thing!!! How awful (not sure I wanted to know about the foaming poo though!)
Who cares if you're being reasonable or not? You're both in a shitty situation.

The thing I try to remember on weekend mornings if feeling shitty (but admittedly I only have 1 ds and 1 very large bump!) is the longer I can leave DH to sleep, the better shape he will be in to take control in the afternoon while I go back to bed.

Here's what I would try:

• Don't worry about getting dressed, just make sure non potty trained dcs have clean nappies on.
• Bring duvets downstairs. Stick a DVD on. Let the kids eat Pombears on the sofa. Whatever it takes to make them stay still.
• Give it an hour or so then wake your DH with a cuppa. Hopefully he will be a bit replenished and so grateful he will take dcs 1 and 2 to the park or something this aft while you and baby go back to bed.

Worth a try?

Sorry x-posted. Glad there is consensus though - hope you manage to get though the day without killing each other!

Survive the day, let them riot if it's not life-threatening. Use DVDs.
Eat whatever is easiest.
Clear up the mess next week.

My mother volunteered to take the children for a couple of hours after lunch. I burst into tears I was so relieved.

The calvery is on it's way. Just two hours and lunch for the children to go.

Well done, you for asking and her for rushing to the rescue.

It's hard as he is I'll but so are you! I do find that however ill we women are we tend to still get on with the things we have to do. I remember when I got really sick when my baby was a few months old and trying to fight the sickness when she wanted breastmilk... Can you imagine a man doing that?! No!

Glad to hear it thank goodness for mums eh?

My Dh had/ has that bug went on for 2 weeks before he went to the doctor I was really running out of sympathy as dd3 was also ill and ended up in hospital.

He took the med which made him better but now as soon as he's stopped he's ill again..

Between the dds and him coming in from work and throwing up I've had about 3.5 hours broken sleep.

And Dh won't be up till at least 12 so i know how you feel

Bless you Gissabreak. :)

I'll force myself to agree with you about our children ;)

...and yeah as I was typying this DH arrived downstairs.

Rant over.

Sending you hugs girlsyearapart. Hope things improve at your house soon.

Sounds like we have the same bug here. Everytime I think it has gone, it rears it's ugly head again...it is the bug which keeps on giving.

Big hugs!

I may also have your bug. Had the runs for a week. Keep thinking I'm going into labour and it's just not happening. Dammit!!!

Thanks. He's just taken over and said 'I'll be ok if the baby will lay down long enough for me to be sick..'

Did offer to stay down with them but he can see that Im so tired I can barely stand!

Velux black out blinds are the best thing we ever bought

I remember when both DH and I had flu (real flu) and the kids were about 18 mo and 3.
My wonderful MIL turned up with Anadin/Nurofen/orange juice and soup as we'd run out, took one look at us, scooped up the kids, packed a bag for them, filled a binliner with dirty washing and took them all to hers for a few days until we could cope again.

She was the best!

Clam - she sounds lovely. It is very, very sad when lovely people like that die (and the miserable bastards seem to last forever!!) :(

But how lovely to have had her :)

Babieseverywhere/Girlsyearapart - how are you both feeling this afternoon?

Clam, :(

I'm still very unwell and crampy but much better for the children being at my mums. Baby still here in her gym and with encouragement can lift an teething ring into her mouth with a few false starts...she is so amazed with her hands at the moment.

Bless my mother, she got DD1 and DS to talk to us on the phone, telling us how much they loved us and that grandma was going to give them food (Don't I do that child eh)i.e. They are staying for tea.

So another couple of hours 'off'...bliss. My parents rock :)

Watching 10,000 BC on TV and backing up photos online between running upstairs, not up to concentrating on anything.

Afternoon all I've only just woken up!

Cannot believe the time- usually after about an hour Dh has either sent one of the dds up for me or they ve come up without him noticing..

babieseverywhere glad you're feeling a bit better.

I wonder what Dh actually has wrong with him as none of us have caught it and I have a lowered immune system so usually catch everything.

Someone round our way had salmonella so we re wondering if it could be that.

Why does your DH usually send your DDs upstairs to wake you after only an hour?

Because he usually either has them after he's been at work late or on the day when he has to do his banking which seems to take him all day..
It is more usual that they come up and he's too zoned out watching tv to notice they've gone from their room into mine..
But I'll take any kind of extra sleep offered tbh!

hope you are all feeling better soon - just to say though that if anyone thinks they may have salmonella, you need to speak to your GP - anti diarrhea drugs shouldn't be taken if you suspect salmonella as the toxins NEED to escape your body and can penetrate your gut wall if you don't - ring your GP for advice.

He did tell the gp and they have sent off for tests which should be back this avo. They didn't seem too concerned tbh