aibu generally or surrounded by shit people?

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

1st aibu,

for dds birthday we went to the zoo, dd was turning 2.
At a display of feeding the penguins we arrived early and waited for sometime as dd was cold and tired and wanted to be in the buggy so i wanted to park her at the edge near the front, i stayed back and allowed all manner of shorter people and children in front. the penguins were released into a room and a women barges me hard and shoves her dd through the crowd then instructs her to stand in front of my pushchair, cue my dd complaining as she can no longer see, my mum asks whats wrong from behind i calmly reply, dd cant see someones in front of her. Lady taps me on the shoulder and spits her words 'why does your precious princess need a panoramic veiw' i reply ' dont be ridiculous but shed like to see, i got here early to ensure that maybe you should' she started screeching so i told her to shut up and go away (ok i was BU)

number 2.

my farking in laws.
Spend money like its going out of fashion until my dcs birthdays arrive and suddenly they cancel all plans with us pleading poverty, but forget i have facebook and see the spending theyre doing instead, AIBU to say if they wish to celebrate we will go out for a meal, as i have no intention of buying food and cooking for them when they cant even be arsed to afford a card. when i know full darn well they can.

number 3.

my little sister is 5, in the choir and learning to sign in school and was chosen to perform at the switch on of lights and the opening of a christmas market along with many other children, her friends mum had a wobbly asking why her dd wasnt, teacher calmly informs her its childs choice to join the clubs at lunch and her child hadnt, when the market performance arrived this mother had decided her child would be on stage regardless and pushed her up with the rest of the class (the teacher looked baffled but did nothing) cue her gushing about how clever her dd was while she stood doing nothing as she hadnt been to the clubs in question, the kid was upset and seemed scared, aibu to think the mum was being selfish and a bit dim.

(ok im in a foul mood, things are bugging me, ive lost my grandma and brother in a matter of months and i sweat the small stuff, i probably am Being very unreasonable arent i?)

Really sorry to hear about your Grandma and Brother :-(

I don't think you're BU in any of those situations. The woman at the zoo sounds like a mad psycho woman looking for an argument. You did the right thing in telling her to shut up.

The inlaws sound annoying. I would just leave them out of birthday festivities in future, and concentrate on those that do bother with your children.

And as for the woman sending her child on stage, well she sounds a complete weirdo and I'm sure others would have the same opinion of her actions as you have.

No I think your'e just grieving and crappy things are making you angry ....Cut yourself some slack. People can be a pain in the arse at times and it's even worse when you are already in pain over other things. I guarantee these types have always been in your life as they are in mine but that you are feeling particularly and understandably sensitive right now.

Definitely shit people! The mother in "number 3" was particularly out of order, as she ended up doing wrong by her precious child, the one she was trying to help by pissing everyone else off! (That makes her an idiot as well as out of order, by the way! )

Actually all those people sound crap. You weren't being U to have a go at the first arse that's for sure.

thats a relief, i didnt know id told her to shut up until my mum told me off as i left!

dps exact words were 'your just a bit of a mardy arse'

he is brilliant and really supportive just hates me sweating the small stuff.

YANBU. They're all examples of shittiness. It could be that your recent bereavements have resulted in extra sensitivity, but in these cases you're just being extra sensitive to shittiness. But they're still examples of shitty behaviour.

YANBU, your grieving and it seems meeting all sorts of 'wierd' people at the same time - its bound be more of a PITA at the minute. Hopefully when the fog clears you'll laugh at these people. (except the poor dd with stage fright).

definately not bu. what idiots. definately not include the relis who can't manage a card, nor would i be particularly inclined to buy them much either, but hey i am particularly grumpy this evening so not the best person to take advice frrom.

You don't sound unreasonable to me. They are shitty people, try not to let them drag you down. Sorry about your Grandma and Brother, be kind to yourself, you're allowed to be a bit of a 'mardy arse' if you feel like it (although I'm sure you aren't).

YABU on precisely NONE of those 3 issues.

blackeyed, i am not buying for them anymore, they can have the homemade card and biscuits ds has and will make and thats that, and the only reason they will is because he is 3 and is obsessed with giving them to everyone!