To be p'd off by passive aggressive MIL!

[Quackmonster]

So I say why don't you come for xmas eve & xmas day, ok, she says lovely but what will my poor double boob job face lift & broke daughter & her pain in arsh son do, so I say ok they can come, BUT I also have 5 other visitors plus 6 of us!! So end up re sheduling other visitors, then she falls out with daughter number 2, who is refusing to have her at xmas(because of previous arguement), bearing in mind she hasn't done xmas for last 5 yrs.
So MIL rings me & asks if can stay another day! Cos other double boob job broke daughter would rather spend day with friends than her (really?)ie boxing day!! I say I've got previously resheduled visitors & she says to tell her straight cos she'll get some food in & be on her own on boxing day!
Is it me? Yes very probably! Got mug written on head!

Who is PA?

Eh?

Well, say no then.

"Sorry. That won't be possible."

Nobody writes 'mug' on your forehead. You do it yourself.

iyswim.

Yes, your right, sorry people, having a rant, need to be more assertive!

No, you need to tell your MIL honestly how you feel. She is not the one being PA here. She has asked you straight out if she can stay another day and has said what her alternative plans are. You don't have to be responsible for her, she is a grown-up.

Why did you invite her and agree to her add-ons in the first place? If you didn't want them (and it's clear from your descriptions you didn't) why didn't you say no instead of yes, then being all resentful about it?

I can't stand people who come over all friendly and accommodating, then bitch to everyone in earshot how put upon and inconvenienced they are. I would rather not be invited somewhere I am not wanted, like 99.9% of the population.