To enjoy being on my own part of christmas day

[ChaoticChristmasAngelCrackers]

My ex and I separated 10 years ago. For the first couple of years he came to see the children on christmas day for a couple of hours. Then after he remarried he started to take the children to his house for part of christmas day, he picks them up about 12/1pm and drops them back off around 5/6pm.

In the time that they're out of the house I spend having me time. I read books, watch dvds, take long bubble baths. I've even been known to catch up on my sleep

For the last 4/5 years my dm and dsf have spent christmas on holiday somewhere but even before then I didn't see them on christmas day, apart from one year where we lived close enough to walk there for my dinner. Even then I came back home again straight after. The only time I ever felt a bit weird about this was when the children stayed with their dad overnight and came back boxing day but that only happened the one year (his choice not mine).

AIBU to enjoy my alone time or am I simply weird

I will let you know ... I will be on my own for the first time this Christmas though admittedly not until about 7 or 8pm when ds goes to bed! My ex and I split earlier this year and he is still living here but will go to his girlfriend's as soon as ds goes to bed this year!

Christmas or no that must be hard for you. I hope you get something sorted out to make things a little easier soon.

thank you Chaotic .. I am sure it will be fine and I guess I have to get used to the idea of things changing at Christmas as ds will no doubt not be here every year!

Enjoy your alone time .. I dont think it is weird - more your Christmas treat!

At the moment my children are 5 and nearly 2 and Christmas is magical ,just like it was when I was little again - and I love it. But before they came along ( I was 40 when LO was born) I used to dread the obligatory round of family etc and would have loved to be on my own for Christmas. When the kids are older I can see it being a very quiet affair

Ooh, time alone at Christmas? Sounds lovely!

This year DH and I have told our families that we will spend most of the time at our house, alone with DS. We will visit our families at their houses so we can leave when we've all had enough of each other.

Now all I need to do is get DS and DH out of the house...

Oh not at all unreasonable! We are after all still the same people (sort of) that we were before DC.

I love being alone...I work from home so I can be! If I had some me time on Christmas day I would watch crappy telly, eat choc and read a lovely new book....have a nice bath...the list could go on.

DC wont be with us always will they? They'll grow up and leave....and it's better to get used to time to yourself in my opinion!

YANBU at all.

I used to love having Christmas on my own before DD came along... She's 3 this year and it'll just be us this year (actually, I think it was the first year she was born but I had that sickness thing and was really ill). For her, I wish there were other people around (ie her father) but, for me, I'm quite happy about it!

No pressure; no stress; no spending £300 on food (like I did last year - but for four days); and, once she's in bed, I can watch what I like. Of course, I'll have a day of Peppa Pig/Toy Story beforehand but that's nothing unusual!

The more I read on here the more I love my Ma. She has always maintained that once you have your own place, you should have Christmas in your own place. If you want to visit you?re welcome but not expected.
Oh and she will lie for you so that you can tell IL that she has demanded that you spend Christmas with her so that you can stay home and not travel 120 miles (my sister with demanding IL?s, who love my Ma well everyone does she?s brill)
So Ma I love you! And ?cause I?m pretty sure that she doesn?t use this site I?m also sending you flowers ?cause you?re brill

Thanks everyone, glad to know I'm (relatively) normal

I did forget to say that my dc are 16 & 18 so not really young, they were about 8 & 10 when this started, I may well have felt different when they were really young. I already have a choice of books/dvds lined up

Kitta your mum sounds similar to mine. It's great when you have family who don't put pressure on you isn't it.