To be put off having a DC2 by SPD?

[DonnatellaMoss]

Have name changed for this as lots of personal info...I had terrible SPD with DS. Had to take maternity leave at 24 weeks, was sofa-bound, lots of pain, had crutches etc. It was a big strain on my DH as I was pretty much incapable of doing anything.

DS is now 1, and DH and I are both horrified by the possibility of another pregnancy like the previous one (I also had pretty much constant UTIs and bad anaemia), with DS to care for too.

What have other people done? I would love another baby at some point but am now thinking I'll either leave it for 4 years (when DS is at school) or stop at one.

AIBU? I recovered after the birth so it's only 9 months of hell...

It isn't always the case that you WILL develop it again. I had it with my first three. I had what my midwife put down to pressure pain from about 32 weeks with my first. I assume it was "pressure pain" when it began at 21 weeks with number two until the midwife said it was far too early and I was diagnosed with SPD. It began at 15 weeks with my third, that pregnancy half crippled me.

So, you can imagine when I found out I expecting number 4, I was horrified and terrified in equal measure. It never happened. Now I know a lot of people say it's old wives tales for different gender pregnancies to be different in such ways but my fourth was my first girl and I have noticed that SPD seems to be more prevalent in baby boy pregnancies. This obviously won't always be the case (if at all, maybe it's pure coincidence that the majority of women I know who've had it have pretty much always gone on to have a boy) but with number three I was in a hell of a state. Didn't get so much as a twinge with my 4th.

OMG you poor women it all sounds so terrible!

Im glad I never suffered and if I had would have been a cold day in hell before I put myself through it again.

You are all so brave.

I had a similar experience with DD1 (could not walk from 30 weeks, on crutches etc). Yet didnt have SPD AT ALL with the second pregnancy . Had girls both times.

Had it with dd3. On crutches 26 weeks and finished work then as I worked on the third floor( probably made it worse). Dc4 isn't happening without a lottery win so dh doesn't have to work!