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to not give this child any more food?

18 replies

Runoutofideas · 25/11/2010 17:22

DD1 has a friend round to play this evening. They are 5. Since coming home from school she has had half a ham sandwich, an apple, a satsuma then said she was still starving so I cooked tea early. They had pizza, garlic bread and salad, which the friend chose from 3 options initially offered to them. She hardly ate any of it - just the topping off one piece of pizza, then had an ice lolly. She is now demanding biscuits. I really don't want to fill her up with more rubbish, but equally I don't want to send her home hungry - I've offered her more fruit, which she doesn't want and I've now said nothing else until Mummy comes - is that harsh?

BTW My own children don't get away with pestering for stuff, but this child is quite full-on and I don't know her very well. Just want to keep them all happy to be honest!

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FreudianFoxPouffe · 25/11/2010 17:24

YANBU she should've eaten more at dinner, she's old enough to understand that!

saffy85 · 25/11/2010 17:25

YANBU. If she was that hungry she'd eat the alternative you offered her.

anonacfr · 25/11/2010 17:25

Difficult one. I guess you gave her options, she picked what she wanted and then didn't want to eat.
Children at that age are so infuriating when it comes to food. Grin
If she's still hungry why don't you try offering her some more pizza/garlic bread if you have any left?

Runoutofideas · 25/11/2010 17:26

Forgot she had another 2 slices of ham with her dinner as well as she wanted to put it on the pizza, then ate it on its own.

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expatinscotland · 25/11/2010 17:27

YANBU

ChickensHaveNoMercyForTurkeys · 25/11/2010 17:28

YANBU. You offered food, she didn't want it.

flingingflangin · 25/11/2010 17:30

YANBU but, I would just give her whatever she wants and never invite her back. I'd rather they left full and not moaning tbh. Yours won't revert to pestering overnight because of it. But it is a PITA.

Runoutofideas · 25/11/2010 17:33

I think you are right flingingflangin - I have just given in and given them each another biscuit. I am just quite surprised that she's been so demanding. Her parents are really strict, so maybe she just sees me as a soft touch!

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flingingflangin · 25/11/2010 18:28

My mum used to say to our friends who came over, you can leave anything you don't like. Because her cooking was mostly crispy pancakes or fish fingers my DSis and I knew this was an opportunity not to be missed and left all our tea every time! Kids are smart! They know how to work us! Open the wine and stay away from the playdate! FWIW I either let them choose, go to MacDs, or send them home before teatime! Grin

cheekyseamonkey · 25/11/2010 18:51

YANBU - No more as she didn't eat her pizza. Them's the rules!

gingerwig · 25/11/2010 18:54

what a cheeky kid. Well done for refusing her demands.
Kids nowadays, etc Smile

thisisyesterday · 25/11/2010 18:54

i wouldn't. i'd offer her the pizza back again

Runoutofideas · 25/11/2010 18:55

Thanks - She's gone home now. Won't be inviting her back in a hurry!

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Chatelaine · 25/11/2010 19:24

YANBU Do not even give it a second thought, it's your home and your tea time rules apply to your children and their friends alike. Otherwise what message does that give to your DD? Poor kid.

pinkthechaffinch · 25/11/2010 19:25

Oh she was probably just over excited.

I feel a bit sorry for her tbh as I was always like that as a kid- just overwhelmed with the novelty of being in someone else's house.

My parents were always firm and strict and I used to go wild , well a bit rude and boisterous, with my friends. I bet her mum would be mortified if she thought her daughter's behaviour was leading to her not being welcome at her friend's house(s).

cumfy · 25/11/2010 21:29

When I was young (

cumfy · 25/11/2010 21:31

I know she "chose" the option with garlic in it, but did she "know" what it was ?

gingerwig · 26/11/2010 21:58

Pink that is very interesting.
One of the kids I feel is "difficult" as a visitor is kept under a very tight leash at home.

I can't get over how forward she is , asking for food and stuff .

I have taught all my kids not to ask for anything to eat /drink except a drink of water when at others' houses

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