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to wonder if my best friends controlling husband has blocked my number on her phone...?

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superv1xen · 25/11/2010 09:20

a few of you may remember me posting about this friend of mine, she has married a complete arse, i don't know where to start with him, he is controlling to the point where she doesn't have her own money, he is "jokingly" lecherous to other women, he has ruined her relationship with her mum, he doesn't like her making plans with her friends, he doesn't treat her DD very well (she isn't his) he talks to her like shit, i could go on Hmm . he doesn't like me at all because i stand up to him and he knows i am not the sort of person to take crap off a man.

anyway, the last few weeks, everytime i have tried to ring or text her her phone has gone straight to voicemail, and texts have not gone through (they pend in my outbox for days then i get a report saying not sent). Yet I know her phone works because I have been with her and she has received calls and texts - from him. and my phone works fine so it isn't mine. and prior to this i could always get hold of her. our friendship is fine, and she rings and texts me regularly so i know that she isn't avoiding me or anything. BUT she does it from either his mobile or their landline.

so if i need to speak to her i have to either ring or text his phone or their landline. which i hate because i hate going through HIM to speak to MY mate Angry i feel i am almost asking his permission. and when i have said to him, can i speak to i can't get thru on her mobile, he has just breezily said, oh sometimes her phone plays up. but it DOESN'T play up. its a good phone and it NEVER plays up when HE rings her. Hmm

i know you can block numbers on mobiles as i had to do it once (some bloke i was seeing and didnt want to, who kept ringing, but thats another story [oops] ) and when i told DP about what had been happening he thinks thats what he has done.

what do people think? and what should i do? :(

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nickeldonkeyonadustyroad · 26/11/2010 11:21

no, I think you did the right thing - if he was there, and you'd made comment on it, there's every chance that he could have got heavy with her.

Wait until you're alone.

Silver1 · 26/11/2010 11:32

YANBU- BUT can I just say he can be as controlling as he likes with your mate, it sounds like she still has enough support to get out if she wants to (it's her house isn't it?)
But he is being an arse to her daughter and putting up with that is un0-forgivable in my book. Sorry but it is, her primary duty is to her daughter.

superv1xen · 27/11/2010 21:28

yeah she can get out if she wants, but she is in love with him for some mad reason :(
me and all her other friends agree that he is a prize twat but there is not a lot we can say as he has a history of being able to turn her against people (ie as i mentioned before, her mum and another close friend - because they spoke their minds) so all we can do is just be there for her and grit our teeth as much as possible. :(

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