AIBU To want to slap my selfish SIL?!

[izzywizzywoowooo]

Hey ladies,

Need peoples opinion on this before I go and say something I regret...!

Last week my 17 year old sister was diagnosed with oral cancer, Very rare as she does not smoke or drink and is young. My family is in tatters at the minute we are obviously all worried about the outcome of this.

My mum promised she would have 2 of the 4 grandchildren this weekend as she didn't want to let them down...She had the eldest two as the youngest are quite a handful and given everything else my mum wouldn't be able to cope. So she said one day in the week after he finishes nursery she will take him to the park...

Anyway I go and collect the two eldest and everything seems fine...I get to my mums and she is in tears... Apparently my sister in law has rung up saying she is a bad grandmother and should have all her 4 children! My mum explained she cannot cope with all 4 giving the fact she is on edge all the time because of the recent news.

The cheeky cow even said oh if your mum is making dinner then can she make her other two children some aswell as she has nothing in?! which is a full blown lie As I was in her kitchen cupboards getting my nephew a little biscuit!

My mum is really hurt by this, She does everything to make sure her grandchildren are OK and has never once left any of them out, My younger nephew didn't even seem too bothered to be honest, he preferred to watch Herbie or something! Lol

I am so angry at my sister in law for this, It isn't like she was really busy and needed a break...the boys always get sent to their rooms to do whatever, The yongest gets dumped in his filthy travel cot all day with some toys whilst she sits on the laptop!

Her and my brother have split up BTW and he is away preparing to go to Afghanistan so that's another thing for my mum to worry about at the minute.

Sorry it is long but I just feel she is out of order!

YANBU - agree that she is being a selfish bitch.

YANBU SIL selfish mare- but perhaps a bit unstable as well.
Are you vaguely hoping she is on mumsnet and gets the hint?

She has always been a selfish bitch though even when my brother and her were together!

She isn't on MN.

YANBU but dont say anything to her just be there for your mother and support her to be fair and know that she is doing the right thing, I will put money on her not saying no to any offers of help she will get from your family if she is anything like you are describing

Are the two eldest your children or your sil's?

All 4 children are hers and my brothers. My mum takes in turns when having them as 4 boys all together are quite a handful.

Whose children did she have?

Yours or sils?

Is this an ongoing theme?

Sorry x posts with you izzy.

Yanbu

Sorry should of worded my post better!

My mum had her and my brothers two eldest children and then said she would take the youngest two out in the week to the park.

My SIL seems to be emotionally detached from the children, anybody who meets her notices it!

I am more pissed off how she has made my mum feel at the minute my mum is suffering enough she isn't sleeping, eating or anything. To be called selfish by someone like my SIL has just upset her even more.

YANBU at all.

I hope your sister makes a full recovery, what a young age to be going through this.

Thank-you Happy.

Tbh it has hit us so hard we just thought she was going to have a check up :( She is booked for an MRI scan this week so we will know more then.

I thought my SIL would of maybe thought before she opened her mouth, I mean surely a mother would know how devastating it is to be told your child has cancer?!

Just going to bite my tongue for now!

Try not to let her get to you - you all have more than enough to worry about. To be honest, if people are not very nice they don't tend to get much better when bad things happen (in my experience anyway).

OMG Sorry I don't normally but the mother of your nieces/nephews is an absolute COW slap her, I'll do it for you if you want!!

I wish the rest of your family well at this trying time and I hope that all is ok, that your little sister gets the treatment she requires to make her well and that your brother returns safe and well from doing a most honourable job.

Just tell her to back off, or Fuck off.

She is being soooooooooooo U.

Inform her, that your mum doesn't have to look after her grandkids at all if it takes her fancy, she should count herself fucking lucky.

If she doesn't like the way your mum does things, she can find someone else can't she.

Whats wrong with her?!

I have just told her she should have some fucking consideration for others and their feelings.

My mum has been like a mum to her. Her own mother doesn't want to know. Everything people do for her she throws back in peoples faces, She is also a compulsive liar, And I might sound horrible saying this but I don't rate her mothering skills anyway so to turn round and call my mum a bad nanny...

Yanbu at all and if it was me I'd have it out with her.

Be clear and calm but give it to her straight that she's crossed a line.

I wish your sister well by the way, can't imagine how upset and scared you all must be.
For what it's worth I've worked with alot of head and neck cancer patients and the survival rates are pretty damn good.

This is going to be a "hump' in the road of her life.
A big bad scary one, which she shouldn't have to face, but she will get through it.

Oh izzy, as if your mum needed that shit! Neither she nor you are in the wrong with this. You SIL sounds like a right selfish bitch.

Hope everything starts to look up for your sister. What a shitty thing to have happen. Thinking of her. x