Background: DS is 5 months and I've been trying to get him to take a bottle for the last 3 months with no luck. DS is a big baby, demand fed and very erratic with feeds so DH has been reluctant to be left alone with him even for half an hour in case he gets hungry and kicks off. I don't really mind this, it's only a few months out of a lifetime after all, but obviously my opportunities for going out are a bit limited as I find it quite tiring to be keeping a small baby happy and fed at parties/restaurants etc. I just can't relax properly, never get to concentrate properly on a conversation and don't feel 100% comfortable breastfeeding in some environments. During this time, DH has gone out a couple of times a week on average, works quite late the other nights and is often busy on weekends catching up with paperwork, going to football or relaxing. Again, mainly I don't mind this as he works hard during the week.
Anyway, miracles do happen and it looks like DS has finally got the hang of a bottle. DH and I are both really pleased, but his first comment was "great, now we can go out for an evening together". I'm obviously pleased that he wants us to spend time together, but AIBU to think that I'd rather go out with some mates and be able to finish a conversation (without having to get my boobs out in public) with a different adult for once??
I think part of me also wants him to do a bit of sacrificing. His life has barely changed since DS was born - probably easier in fact, as I am at home all day so get all the jobs done/cook nice dinners etc. I think I might want him to understand that it gets quite boring and lonely in the evenings once DD and DS are in bed. (Now that bit is unreasonable!)