to feel quite sad about this

[cikals]

It was ds birthday yesterday, we bought him some nice presents but my brother bought him a wii and my sister has bought him some games. Ds has played on it for as long as I would allow him to since he got it, he has barely touched what we bought him. When I asked him what his favourite present was he said the wii and that it was the best ever.
I feel really sad that his favourite present was the one my brother and sister got him and not one I had.

Thats kids for you

My DD likes the paper and the boxes and was really in love with the bows nanna put on her presents.

It doesn't matter what his favourite is now, it'll change in a few days

Really? What child wouldn't love a wii? I know mine would, well the eldest, youngest would probably prefer the box it came in but kids love all the techy stuff that's about, it's normal.

The novelty will wear off I suspect.

I would try not to give it too much thought.

YANBU to feel sad about it but I think it is something you will have to get used to.

Surely you knew what your bro and sis were buying? Mine always check with me first. I'm sure DS loves them all but a Wii probably a new thing whereas you've bought him things to add to already owned toys?

Sorry your feeling so

No they didn't discuss it with me beforehand although I wouldn't have had any objections.

I know its only natural for him to love it but it just sticks in my throat because I could never have afforded to buy one for him

I understand where you are coming from. One of the great things about the Wii is that it can be fun to play together as a family, both competing and cooperating. Have you been playing it with him? Could you look on it as something that you can use to have fun together?

why do you care who got him the present, your son is happy and enjoys a present he got for his birthday. it would be terrible if he felt he had to say your present out of loyalty. he is a child, he shouldn't have to censor his happiness for the sake of your adult feelings. it isn't about you, it is about what makes him happy and this present did.

You've forced the issue really by asking the question. If you'd asked him for eg 'what do you like more - the Wii or cuddles from mummy?' (which you wouldn't I hasten to add because it's bleurgh) then you know how he'd answer. So it's just a thing. Don't let it mean more than that.

see cikals your the opposite to me. I'm a single parent and my wages only just stretch to essentials. My sis and her BF don't have DC's and my bro in the forces. They often want to buy him the expensive things dc's his age have - which I can't afford - so I go great

Just remember your the one he goes too when upset, unwell, for cuddles etc and that will never change - but one day the Wii will malfunction.

He doesn't love them more than you just because they bought him a nice gift. He just likes the gift. YABU but it is understandable.

"Wii or cuddles from mummy" - both my boys would be choosing the Wii!

Yes, DON'T ask which he likes best out of cuddles or the Wii, might make you more depressed!

I feel your sadness. When our son had his birthday he loved what we got him and we were proud he accepted that he only got 1 present and 2 books. His uncle turned up with a £200 present and that was that. DS did tell us how much he liked ours though and had played with it a lot.

you think thats bad, me and oh bought a present for ds birthday costing £1000 (it was a garden activity toy which will be used for years to come for both children)
my 13 year old sister bought ds a poundland toy and he played with it hours and hours and didn't even look at what we got him

YANBU to feel a bit sad, but try to be happy for him!