to tell DH "Erm, no way" ??

[Frazzledmumwithsmudgedmascara]

DH went out at 3pm yesterday to go to a city 2 hours drive away for a clubbing night with friends, staying over in a hotel. That's fine with me. I have been up lots of the night feeling really fluey and horrible, with a high temperature and headache. 2 of our DC's are also ill and were ill all yesterday evening.

Obviously this morning I had to get up at the crack of dawn with the baby and carry on as normal, however I'm feeling very rough and need to go back to bed or at least lie down. There is lots of stuff that needs doing today, such as the food shop, school uniform needs ironing for tomorrow etc. DH has just phoned and said he is "tired", and that he is "Looking forward to getting home so he can go back to bed"

AIBU in saying the sentence I put in the title to him? Would IBU if I went back to bed myself when he got in?

YADNBU Get yourself back to bed asap

of couese YWNBU!

Is he having a larf?

YANBU!

You should definitely go back to bed if you're ill! He's had his time away, now you should get a break. Don't be antagonistic, just reply back saying you're unwell, have not slept and that it will be you going back to bed when he gets in.

No yanbu. I was out last night(dh babysat) but I still had to get up with baby this morning at 7.30. Just made everyone a big breskfast and am now going to retire back to bed for an hour with my book!. Tell dh he can go to bed for couple hours then its your turn(and stay there the rest of the day!).

MY DP says he would expect a 'fuck off' text from me and that it would be totally deserved.

YANBU.

YANBU obviously - he chose to go out clubbing, you did not choose to be unwell!

He won't be home until at least 1pm as he isn't the one driving, and the driver is currently still in bed.

Go to bed. His tiredness is self inflicted.

I told him that I wasn't feeling well and that I was going to go back to bed and he just didn't say anything. I think he will probably get in, not mention it, in the hope that I have forgotten, and then will just sneak off upstairs and go to sleep or will put sport on and conk out on the sofa....

Best leave the "To Do" list where he can't miss it then.

Oh yes, leave him a list.

Tell him he can sleep when everything is done.

Dont you dare let him think you've forgotten !

Your DH is a cheeky bastard!!

The return text is 'nice try ...'

If he tries to sneak up to bed stick your dcs in bed with him. Then go and get in one of their beds.

I wouldn't reply to that, or he'll delay coming home.

Ccac, Ha! I tried that. We have played musical beds all morning, yet am still up(despite being up with poorly DD's for two nights, and working FT...)and D(?)H is in our bed now. He is SAHD, not saying that is easy job. Just give me an hour he says...

pippity check your watch, give him an hour, then kick him out while you get in

Well, he got home eventually......

His bag is currently dumped, unemptied, on the kitchen floor. As he got in the door I was dishing up the baby's lunch so I said "Oh good, you're just in time to feed baby Frazzled his lunch". So he fed him, made a half-hearted attempt to empty the dishwasher as a token gesture, then went on the PC and is now watching TV.

I asked if he's going to help with a) cooking tea and b) the mountain of clean washing to be put away. And he said no, because's he's tired.

In which case, ask him to cook tea and put the washing away and be a father to his children - tell him you're off to bed and will be up a tea time.

Get yourself to bed and tell him you are now on strike,how are you supposed to manage all this feeling so poorly and tired dont be a martar to ypurself tell him how it is and stand your ground

In which case he can whistle for his tea - do yours and the DCs, something very simple and basic, tell him he can sort himself out and go back to bed.

Am getting more and more annoyed with men who think this is ok behaviour!

I am currently sitting in bed with the laptop!

DH is still watching TV, but will be getting fuck all for tea from me, and when the kids start saying "I'm hungry" he'll have to make them something.....

God, lazy sod!
(not you OP).

Even if you weren´t ill, why does him going on the piss for a weekend mean that he doesn´t have to do anything around the house-especially when you have two young children?