to wish away the baby phase?

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This is DC 2. It's just all work, isn't it, just when you've got to a stage where the first one can be left/is a bit more independent. For various reasons my relationship with DP has really blossomed since her birth but we have no time together. DS is missing out on attention. She's gorgeous and smiley and cute but if I can be honest I'll be happier in a year. Is that terrible?

YANBU. Mine are 5 and 8 now. I miss the sensuality of babies and of course they're cute (as my mum says, survival mechanism because otherwise you'd abandon them at 4 in the morning), but I greatly preferred the toddler stage, tantrums and all - at least there's a personality there - and I like these ages even more (restaurants, museums, hill-walking - shared pleasures). Mine were both nightmare sleepers and I hated being on mat leave. I reassure myself that since they spend a lot more time being kids than being babies, it's actually better to enjoy the older years more. (If you can't delight in both, but I can't).

Not terrible at all. Different people like different stages and that's fine.

Willacather - I can't wait for a stage of shared pleasures. Mine are 4, 2 and 3 months and none of them seem to enjoy doing anything I want to do . I want to go and see a film and both enjoy it, go for a walk and us both enjoy it, go out for a meal and no one throws anything on the floor...

Saying that I absolutely love the baby stage - up until about 9 months and especially the first six months. They don't move

YANBU, I hated the baby phase, dd had colic and would cry from morning until night, I had PND and felt really isolated. Then after came teething and the constant crying that came with that. No i dont regret wishing away the baby phase at all, dd is 3.9 and is much easier and enjoying things much more.