Would we be stupid to go and risk DS catching a bug?

[jaggythistle]

Will try to keep this short, more of a decision than an AIBU I suppose!

We're supposed to be going to a family party tonight. Original plan was to spend the afternoon there with DH's family, party at night and stay over (it's a couple of hours drive from home).

My niece (11mths) has had a bug all this week, constant diarrhoea by the sounds of it.

We were hoping she'd be better by this weekend as we don't fancy our DS (14 months) catching it.

It sounds like not only is she still not quite better, FIL now has bug and is vomiting as well.

So the options are

a) don't go

b) change plans a bit and just go to party for a short time to see family/drop off present, minimise DS eating cousin's toys, then go home

c) don't worry and stick to original plan.

If it was just me and DH it wouldn't be a problem but wouldn't fancy wee DS getting ill. It would be a shame not to see family who have come from quite far away. :(

C) You can't worry about every little bug. They are going to get ill at some point.

I'd avoid not just for DS but for me!

I would not go. If FIL has caught it then there is a good chance that the others will come down with it too. Not a fun weekend with everyone dashing to the loo.

I'd go with option a). I wouldn't avoid for a cold or similar, but d&v not worth risking for a family party IMO. Make arrangements to catch up at a later date.

Well if FIL's got it now, I think I think you need to cancel not just for the sake of DS but those who are ill too. Surely no-one's going to enjoy this "do" if two members of the family are already ill and others could be about to go down with it. Wouldn't it be better if it were rearranged altogether.

I am assuming that FIL will now stay at home.

It is at BIL and SIL's house though, so I guess DN will be crawling about.

Option b) was my idea, wondered if minimising exposure might help.

You are right though, not sure who else will want to go and visit a house with a runny baby!

I think they were hoping it wasn't too contagious, FIL only came down with it yesterday after looking after DN for the previous 2 days.

thanks for quick responses, DH needs to call his Mum back soon!

I was at DH suggesting I post on here about this, I must talk about MN a lot

Ah, ok. I thought that FIL was going to be there too.

Still, I would avoid. If it one person then it can be a tummy upset caused by something else, but when two are ill then it is definitely a bug.

It is so horrible when babies have tummy upsets - they just don't understand and get so upset when they vomit. I hated it.

Don't do it, we recently had a d and v bug, caught from a friends child.

It was awful, I was flat out for 2days, unable to eat for 4 days, then dp got it, then ds and finally dd who was 15months.

Avoid avoid avoid

No way would I go.

I'd cancel, the chances are that it won't just be DS who will come down with the bug but the adults too.

Definitely cancel. I was wavering on the DN issue, but now FIL has gone down with it too, it's a no-no for me I'm afraid.

No way would I risk giving a wee one a tummy bug just for a family get together. Snots? Fine. A little one with a tummy bug is two weeks of sleepless hell with the nappies from satan. Sorry.

Yeah, it's rubbish. I guess we were hoping to hear that DN was fine now and maybe she'd just eaten something dodgy. She was fine and not off her food so we were optimistic!

Hearing that FIL has it and by the sounds of it a worse case is disappointing.

Really wouldn't want DS to suffer though.

Thanks.

By fine I mean she was cheery enough etc, runny bum was not fun and she's ended up with nappy rash the poor wee thing. :(

dont go, i am just out of the childrens ward with ds (3y11m) with a horrid bug - not nice

Aw your poor DN :(. Shame you have to miss out, but I think it's for the best this time around, I'm sure your ILs will understand :).

Yeah, I haven't spoken to MIL but they have left the decision up to us.

I hope they'll be ok, they already seem to think we are a bit precious with DS but hopefully they will see that it is not the same as just some snotters!

We had been hovering around the earlier idea of just stopping at the door, waving hi (no kisses hello please) and dropping off the gift, but the more I read the more I am thinking plan a) was always the better one!

I had also though of sending DH on his own to drop it off and see family, but then he'd probably bring the bug back for us :)

Avoid I think!

Don't go!!!

DD(5) and I are just recovering from a vomiting & diarrohea bug today. Really bloody awful! She has missed her beloved dance class and friend's birthday party and we have generally had a totally miserable few days. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

But it's much, much worse for very young children - dd was hospitalised at around 15 months with the norovirus, because she couldn't keep any fluid down and became really dehydrated. Had to go on a drip etc. Really scary and definitely not worth it!!