To be upset she didn't remember my sons name

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Was chatting away quite happily on the phone to my so called eldest and dearest best friend who I've been friends with for 23 years when she asked how Jamie was, I asked who Jamie was to which she replied your son. My son is not called Jamie and his name is not even similar. To make matters worse my sons name is my maiden name which she always knew I ws planning to call a boy. AIBU to be upset and hurt over this????

I can see how you would be upset, but as someone who regularly uses the wrong name for my own DD's...... I feel I cannot comment

How often do you see her?

I really don't think it's a massive deal, she made a mistake, that's all.

I'm terrible with names.. I once referred to my best friends husband as Tim when he's a Tom. Luckily she recognises this and doesn't see my error as a big deal.

No biggy really, don't worry.

no, don't sweat it
she's probably mortified

I'm shocking with names - even when sober - and my mother lists off my 4 siblings and a few aunts before getting to my name.

At least you are still friends after so long and she actually cared enough to ask after your DS in the first place!

pff. An old friend (though one I only see once a year or so due to living overseas now) still thinks DH's name is his surname. DH happens to have a surname which is similar to a first name. I've been married now for 7 years, and I think I'm past the point where I can correct my friend. I keep hoping he notices on Facebook or something..

I think you are being slightly U. If she's someone you see daily/weekly/often, then perhaps she should know better, but otherwise I think it's an easy enough mistake.

I have 3 DD's and have often called each one by one of thier sisters names,

yanbu
but I often forget names(I have been doing christmas cards and have had to check FB/email or resort to "and family)

My mum calls me my daughter's name, my cat's name, my sister's name, my brother's name then finally gets it right. She once even called me "chair" in the midst of all this I take no offence at it.

I often call my ds the dogs name

Funkychunkymunky she really called you chair:o
my Mil calls DH, bil's nama then his........and well none of the grandsons get called the right name first(yes I called DH by DS's name today)

I'd be pissed off, too!

I think it's just good manners to ,even if you secretly couldn't give a toss about a friend's child, take a mental note of the kid's name!

Surprised to see so many people think this is alright?!

When her concentration lapses, my slightly dotty best friend (who also happened to be my birth partner when DS arrived) will sometimes ask me how 'Ben' is. Needless to say, he is not called Ben but she 'always thought he looked like a Ben'.

I struggle with names too.

Think your friend will be mortified. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Zondra, some people have difficulty with remembering names. They genuinely can't help it, it's not that they don't give a shit.

My Dad was like this. He called my ds1 the wrong name for ages and the name he called him was actually the name of my cousin who had died aged five which I found very upsetting but I knew it wasn't that he didn't care about ds1, in fact he adored him. It was almost like a form of dyslexia.

Just a brain fart, don't take it personally.
I mix up my own family members names all the time.

Try being one of 8, though it had it's good sides, by the time Ma had run through all the names, me being near the end she had calmed down or even forgot what she was going to tell me off about

oh, i wouldn't read too much into this, although i know how easy it is to get hurt by this sort of thing :)

i suppose the issue is really did she have no idea what his name was, or did she go through a temporary brain fuzz.

i remember the first weekend at PIL's house after DC was born, i was so exhausted (mentally, mostly) from the visitors and family trips to see/visit, I ended up calling my FIL my BIL's name - not just once but about three or four times. i'm sure they thought i was going mental. BUT the point is I knew his name, it was just a fuzz that made me slip up. perhaps your friend was incredibly tired/hung over/even drunk? if she's been your friend for 23 years (!) and his name is your maiden name, i'm sure things are more innocent than they semm :)

My mother sometimes calls me by my stepfather's name. If he wasn't a nice bloke I might get arsy about it but it's so clearly just mum-ish brainfart. Yabu

YABU

I called DH today to let him know that I was running late from work, I was scanning emails a whilst it was ringing and when DH answered, for a second, I had no idea who had answered the phone and was about call him by the name of the man whose emails I was looking at.

Have you never ever had a lapse?

I was talking to my best friend last week about her daughter (my god-daughter) and her name just went out of my head! It was really embarrassing cos I was mid-sentence and after a couple of 'errrrrs' I had to ask 'whats her name again?'. Mortifying!

I see my Goddaughter at least twice a week and actually helped pick her name! I'm just a forgetful div but no harm was meant.

I'm sure its not an indication of how your friend feels about your son - I truly love my GD to bits - I even forget my own kids names. Somebody asked me how old they were today and I panicked cos I couldn't remember lol

YAB a bit U.

My Grandad used to go through my mum, aunt and sis's name before he got to me. We found it funny.

Had to lol @ being called chair though, I think I would take exception at that :)

She made a mistake and is probably humiliated. Chill out.