to think social services are being unfair about the 'race' issue

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DD is 5 yrs old. She is half white British and half Brazilian (her biological father's father is ethnically Japanese and his mother is ethinically half American Indian half Portuguese). DH has been her dad since she was 6 months old, her biological father & his family have no interest in her. We have 2 more DC's and DH is applying to adopt DD (DH is white British/Irish). The social worker compliling our case has said that the courts may not think the adoption is appropriate as it will cut her off from her racial heritage and DH isn't equipt to teach her about her race I am pretty shocked and upset by this and feel it is actually verging on racism.

They. Are. Loons!

Good luck with the adoption!!

(This nonsense has been going on for years/decades. I am not, in the least, surprised)

They. Are. Loons!

Thanks guys, I wasn't sure whether people would think I was being politically incorrect unreasonable and therefore to get flamed, but being my child it is something I feel very strongly about. I know racism and it's many forms are a political minefield, but to feel like you're on the recieving end of it from an official body who are desperately trying to come accross as the opposite is a strange and confusing experience!

Politically incorrect was meant to be crossed out, not sure why it didn't work?!

How long has the social worker been qualified? Sounds like inexperience (and twaddle) to me.

I think I'd turn this one on its head and ask the social worker to suggest some families with the "appropriate" ethnic mix in them who might be prepared to adopt your daughter. Failing that - to suggest how practical ways of engaging the biological father who is not interested anyway and presumably has to give his consent to the adoption anyway.

YANBU and the social worker sounds ridiculous as does any system that suggests such a thing. On a serious note, however, if you are confronted with this sort of attitude, you should think about engaging a specialist solicitor to represent you.