Ok so I should have said No, looking after friend's poorly dd

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I am at home today. My third youngest started school full time on Monday just gone so am now home alone all day (well apart from the baby!).

No morning, midday and afternoon school runs for older children and then the dd who has just started full time was on half days etc.... So, I am enjoying my full days at home, apart from the endless list of housework, food shopping, Xmas shopping, appointments, carpet fitters, etc...

So, to the point! My close friend phones this morning. Could I have her dd who is poorly as she had arranged to go Xmas shopping with her boyf today and its the only few hours they could get. Apart from the fact that he works for himself and she has no job, well kind of.

I should have said no, but am on here to just moan (sorry MN'ers!). Poorly dd is now sat on my sofa watching a dvd whilst her mum is out shopping. Personally I would have cancelled shopping, there is plenty of opportunity to go.

Rant over, sorry for the long post!

I thought you were going to say that your friend had some important meeting for work, and that she was really struggling! But she has dumped her sick child on you so she can go shopping

I hope she gets you a nice Christmas present, you deserve it.

Um, well, I don't know what to say, I can't really imagine prioritising Christmas shopping in November over looking after my daughter, so I just don't get the whole thing. I would have said 'no', but then I can't imagine anyone asking me this really. I think you need to say 'no' next time!

Your friend is selfish. How ill is the child? Ill enough to make it unfair to take her to someone else's house? It does sound like Christmas shopping could've been done another day, but in this instance, it doesn't really matter what they were going to do, I don't think.

Yes, you should've said no, but they shouldn't have tried to leave the child at all.

Is it a new relationship? Could she be putting the boyfriend before the child?

Apparently dd has a sore throat, not much else that I can see is wrong with her.

Not a new relationship, they have been together a while. However, there is an age gap and she has 4 children already. It really is funny what has gone on between them since they have been together. I am not keen on him!

I am kind of taking it out on her as it seems that everyone seems to be on at me at the moment to do everything so its kind of getting to the point where I just feel like shouting at everyone to 'DO IT YOURSELVES YOU LAZY EXPLETIVES'. I do have 4 children, a lazy arse husband, a house to look after and endless amounts of shopping, appointments, baby at home, housework etc.... Contrary to what most people think about me having all the time in the world to do nothing!

And breathe! I think I have seasonal Xmas rage!

Personally I wouldn't want to leave my poorly DC with a friend and go shopping. Children want their mums when they are ill, so I don't really understand your friend. If she had to go to work and the child was just a bit under the weather, then that would be different.

I think it's nice for you to do this favour for your friend as a one off, but I wouldn't get into the habit of looking after her child while she goes off and does other things. It's convenient for her, but not for you

You are too nice and doing too much, perhaps a little explosion may be in order anyway.

karmabeliever, I will say no from now on!

Onetoomanycornettos, so I should make myself heard? Sounds good to me, its about time I sorted a few people out, lol!

:)