To feel angry with DH for having an affair...in my dream

[Rachyrachrach]

Yes I know I am of course but I can't help it. Dreamt that I came home early from a friend's house to find him having the time of his life with a gorgeous blond on the sofa.
I've woken up this morning with such a vivid picture in my head and I feel so angry and upset even though it's not bloody happened.
Poor bloke's fast asleep in bed completely unaware that I'm seething!

Tell him - he'll be pleased you are hurt/jealous/angry!

I had a similar dream about my DH last night! He was having a txt affair and I rang the woman in floods of tears and they were both really smug about it. Grrrrr!!!! Woke up feeling crappy! DH is at work though so will have forgotten it by the time he gets home.

I have dreams like this all the time., And always wake feeling similarly unsettled. Just tell dh, he gives me a cuddle and says something helpful like 'was she hot?' He is only joking of course.

He tels me of an ex who used to get properly angry with him for the sazme which is so irrational its ridiculous. Not unreasonable to feel a bit unsettled though

I've told him. He's mocking me and looking unsettlingly pleased with himself

You are spending too much time on Mumsnet !

Agree with alicet - my DP has an ex who got angry with him about the same thing - it means I can't do it now as he has absolutely no patience for it!

I once spent a good half hour stomping around being mad at DH until he finally asked what he'd done. And I started to explain. And realised it was actually something he'd done in my dream the night before

I had this once, I was furious all morning and then when I eventually told him in the afternoon I got really upset... He was totally baffled!

I've done this before too! I dont think my Dh had an affair, I can't remember, but whatever it was, it pissed me off.

I know it's unreasonable to be upset at DH for something that he hasn't done, but it's hard! Dreams can be so vivid, and you experience the same emotions.

Oooh I know this one ...weird isn't it how you can really feel strongly about something that you know has never happened! It's just as odd when it's you having the affair in your dream and wake up and feel really guilty !

I think there's a self-protection element in these dreams. Essentially, your brain is working out its plan of action, should the worst happen.

There must be something in the air as I had a similar dream too on Tuesday. I just let it go - I know DP isn't going to be jetting of to NY without me.

Oh & last night I was with someone else in my dreams (not sure if it was an 'affair' but I was pregnant with DP's baby as I am in real life so I guess it was). I think the 2 dreams balance each other out.

I dreamt once that DH moved another wife in and was terribly blase about it. I woke up and very nearly thumped him. Poor bloke.

it's even worse if it's you and the other person in your dream is someone you work with ....makes the next day in the office really odd !

I have dreams like this too, I always tell him in the morning and we have a laugh about it though

I sometimes have dreams about very senior people at work - either having affairs with them, or them being very sweet to me. So I then start smiling at them as I pass them in the corridors, and get somewhat bemused looks back.

Oh yes I've had that a few times, isn't the feeling of relief amazing when you wake and realise it was just a dream? I am guilty of getting really angry with DH over it tho

I've had a similar dream. It was a few months ago. Dh was having an affair and I came home to find him moving the ow into our house.

I woke up wanting to punch him!! I told him and he found it highly amusing .

I dreamt I was having a hell of a row with DD the other night - she was being a complete cow, and we were really yeling at each other. I woke up FURIOUS with her - and stayed cross even when I'd worked out it was a dream. For hours I was muttering "bloody DD. How dare she!".

I dread to think what these dreams say about our respective relationships.

DP was a bit funny with me the other morning, after a bit of prodding he said it was because I'd been really horrible to him in his dream! Made him a coffee and was forgiven - he wouldn't ell me what I'd done though

DH & I have these dreams all the time!
He handles it a lot better than me tbh.

I've only once dreamt I was being unfaithful, and it felt awful. Really icky.

We are very happy together btw.

I've had a couple of those dreams.

The other woman has an actual name, Polandra Chatterjee.

Fuck knows where that came from!

Same dream here. Hubby has an affair with someone who he knows and is a REAL person. I don't have to see her but he does.

However, that morning I did tell him that if he EVER had an affair with anyone (didn't name the person who appeared in the dream), I would cut off his bits so he could never do it again and then leave him anyway!