To change my name back to maiden name?

[Folicacid]

An other post on here has inspired me to my very first AIBU post.

I got married 14 months ago. I had planned never to change my name, then I swithered, then I agonised.

I insisted we were not called Mr and Mrs FolicAcid at any point in ceremony or reception on our wedding day.

Then about 9 months into marriage I suddenly thought- i want to have the same name as my kids ( as yet unborn and unconceived!)and I marched into the bank in lunch hour and changed my name.

Now I regret it. Should I change it back and risk hurting DH or leave it and get used to it.

I have my maiden name for work and it is the name I am called by most often so my married name seems to be for the bank and nectar, boots cards only. I haven't changed passport or driving licence.

My married name just isn't me.

AIBU to change my name back, or should I just suck it up?

I have changed my name, but after four years I still feel like I am giving out a false name when I use it.

It took me 3 years to change my passport and driving licence, and I only did those because it made booking holidays / hire cars easier. In my head I am still my maiden name and I still use it on one credit card and my email.

I have never in 10 years had a problem with using each name or both names, with banks/legal/anything.

I didn't have a problem with it either until I tried to use both names with the same bank.
The system can only accept one name at a time.

Must be your bank then, I use both names on different accounts with my bank, no problem at all. Its really very obvious that both names are me!

Yep. The Barclays computer says no. Despite it being obvious who I am.

bil got married and changed his name by deedpoll as his new wife to be didn't want to take his surname as she had same first name as first wife so didn't want the confusion of being the same...

bil didn't tell anyone that he had done this until the wedding (well apart from his dp I assume it was a joint decision!) so that the registrar married him in his new surname and thus his new wife took on his new surname (which was actually one of his middle names that sounds like a surname anyway and was therefore still one of his given names).

They were both delighted with the solution.

FIL was horrified and refused to speak to them for ages as it was 'his' family name that had been removed (disclaimer - I've only met my fil about 4 times in 20 years, he's only met my children (and his gc) twice, first time he met them at a big extended family party I didn't know he was and had to ask dh who the strange overly-familiar old bloke was, thought he was one of bil's relatives so there is no love lost between us and so quite nice to see him offended when he usually manages to offend everybody else!)