To think WTF after this phone call

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Just had a phone call from BIL asking if DS 5.2 likes wrestling

I said No I don't think so as he's only 5 think its a bit to violent atm and it would encourage rough behaviour.

The reply i got was on well I've just done my xmas shopping so he will have to like it now!

AIBU to be a bit miffed about this??

Probably a bit annoyed also as in the same conversation he asked to borrow something else from even though he still has some DVD's of mine that I have been asking for the past couple of days but he keeps "forgetting" to drop them off.

give over, it wont harm him and it will go with all the other plastic tat stuff he gets at xmas.

Stop lending your DVDs if it bothers you so much.

YABU

Well at least he's taking an interest I suppose. My 2 BILs are not really bothered by our DSs. One of them has never met DS1 who is 12 months old and was too hungover to come and see DS1 last time we visited.

I remember seeing wrestling when I was very little and it was just goodies vs baddies to me.

I am the sort of person who doesnt like saying no though cus i dont want people thinking im a bitch.

I was more annoyed at what he said after i said he didnt like it, than the fact he has got him the stuff.

If DS liked wrestling i would probley be ok with it, its just the fact that he said oh well he will just have to lump it cus i have already got it, if he doesnt like it.

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Has your DS seen any wrestling? You say he doesn't like it, but in your OP you say 'its a bit to violent atm and it would encourage rough behaviour' which is not what a 5 YO would think or say.

To me it looks like you're trying to control what other people buy your DS, I can understand some things if they're inappropriate, but the important thing about other peoples presents is that they're not what you would buy and can give DC a wider experience of things.

I don't watch wrestling or anything, but it's hardly going to corrupt him for life

If you don't want your DS to have whatever it is, eBay it or give it to a charity shop.

No that is what i said, but tbh it doesnt bother me that much.

DS has no interest in that sort of thing tho, it is still all thomas the tank and toy story, so cant imagine he will like it, but he may surprise me.

As i say above it was the comment he said after rather than what he has bought.

I am greatfull for all gifts DS recives, it is the comment that oh well he will have to like it now that bothered me

I'd be annoyed about anyone asking "Does your DC like X?" just after having bought them X for Christmas/birthday. Either think and ask ahead of buying, or STFU and hand over whatever you've chosen yourself on the day.

I don't think wrestling is appropriate for a 5 year old so I think YANBU...you could always just accept the gift and hide it away

"Oh yes, of course you can borrow X. As long as you bring back Y. We can swap. No Y - no X. Or soon I'll come to your house and you'll have so much of my stuff I'll think I'm at home!"

and present wise - stick it in the loft.

What was the point in him asking you if he had already got it?!

YANBU, I wouldn't want my DS having anything to do with wrestling either. Just the other day we were at a friends house and I notice DS (2.9) was playing quite roughly with his friend which was very unusual for him. This friend was waving around a toy knife (in quite a 'threatening' way) in DS's face, then trying to get him with a sword and DS was picking up on it and reacting (what I would call) violently. I am not keen to encourage any of this behaviour.

I always have to have a word with my cousin as he plays quite roughly with DS, then when DS copies him by doing it to others, sometimes smaller children, he can't understand why he is being told not to do it.