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To have left this note on a car earlier?

61 replies

JandT · 15/11/2010 16:49

It said 'Thank you for your inconsiderate and selfish parking'.

I'd parked in Mum and Baby section, the 'space' next to my car wasn't a parking space anymore (although in their defence it hasn't had the paint taken off, it's just they built a trolley park over it so it wasn't really big enough for a car)and they parked so close to my car that although I could get in on my side, I couldn't even walk down the other side, let alone get my sleeping 4 month old in. I had to park the pushchair in front of the car, move the car, then get baby and pushchair in.

I've never left a note on anyone's windscreen before but I was so annoyed! They had even parked at an angle as it was the only way they could get out.

Grrr..

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SkyBluePearl · 15/11/2010 18:26

Someone blocked my garage last week so i couldn't get anything out of it. Not even DD's bike. Thankgoodness I didn't go into labor! My note was polite but firm.

cumfy · 15/11/2010 21:04

How come you left enough space for a car to park ??

Shouldn't you have parked where they did (approximately) ?

thefirstMrsDeVere · 15/11/2010 21:14

There is a woman who blocks me and several others in at church every week.

The car park is small and the first time she did it I was fine and thought she would be out soon. I imagined if you knew you were blocking several cars in you would be first out at the end.

Noooo. She stops for ages having tea and chatting.

I think she is a)mad or b)a member of some new evangelical cult, plotting to keep even the most wishy washy Anglicans in church all Sunday.

pointythings · 15/11/2010 22:00

My mum has a physiotherapist across from her house.
A lot of his patients are clearly so desperately ill that they have to park across her drive so that she can't get out. Before she retired, this was a problem as she had to get to work!
So one day when I was there, someone parked across her drive. She went into the waiting room and politely (really!) asked the owner of the car to own up and move. No-one did.
So she took a tub of old-fashioned soap (very jelly-style stuff, in a tub) and slathered this guy's windscreen with it.
We stood and watched him come out of the physio and notice what had happened.
He tried his windscreen wipers, but no go. He ended up having to borrow the physio's hopepipe to clear the stuff off - took him 20 minutes.
My mum and I stood at the window watching the whole time.
Passive-aggressive, maybe, but boy was it fun!

SoupDragon · 15/11/2010 22:07

What annoys me is when someone has parked badly, forcing you to park badly in your space and then that other car leaves, making you look like the twat.

DandyDan · 15/11/2010 23:05

It's not passive aggressive.

People park in front of our driveway sometimes and I leave notes asking them not to do so, as we are blocked in and my OH needs to frequently use his car during the day for work from home, sometimes for emergencies.

If you have no way of communicating with the person who's really made it difficult for you to even move the car, let alone get in, I don't see the problem with a note.

EricNorthmansMistress · 15/11/2010 23:10

YANBU
I left a note the other day, on a car which was parked extremely badly, wonky and really close to mine, I had to shuffle it a few times to get it out without scraping mine on theirs. I wrote 'learn to park' Blush which was rude but it was terrible parking.

Carrie06 · 15/11/2010 23:11

My old boss writes "learn to fucking park" on his notes in our work carpark. Pretty direct I think. Not sure if he signs them.

maighdlin · 15/11/2010 23:11

YNB at all U . Good for you always wish i had the balls to do it. Bad parking is either down to arrogance or laziness. those bastards who intentionally park over two spaces wind me up something shocking.

muminthemiddle · 15/11/2010 23:20

My dh parked in the carpark of a supermarket in his van which has slide doors.
There must have been 100 empty spaces but when he returned to his van with a trolley laden with shopping he found that a car had parked so close to him that he couldn't physically get between both vehicles.
Not only could he not get access to the drivers side but as this is the side with the full sliding doors, he couldn't put the shopping in.
He literally had to crawl across the passenger side, reverse out of the space and then put the shopping into the van.

shocknews · 15/11/2010 23:21

One of my ex-boyf's years ago used to have printed little notes saying 'next time leave me a f*$king tin-opener' !

onmyfeet · 15/11/2010 23:22

I see no problem with notes, or the soap. Perhaps they will learn to think of others when parking. However, we got a note on our car once, and we had nothing to do with her car problem. We were there first, no cars in the spaces around us. I guess something had happened while we were shopping. The note person informed us they took our license plate number and we would be hearing from them, but we never did. Thenote was really angry and full of words like "idiot, asshole and bastard".

Saucepanman · 15/11/2010 23:29

I left one last week at Sainsburys, after watching 2 giggling young girls reverse half way into a P&T space, pause to decide if they should as they saw me clock them, then just park there anyway- and park badly at that, I mean how big are those spaces ffs. I wrote "selfish parking" on a money off voucher I didnt need due to their blatant laughing in my face about it.

I once asked a woman in Sainsburys car park if she would mind terribly reparking in one space rather than the 2 (ordinary) spaces she has straddled. Carpark rammed, sleeping baby etc. She brayed at me that she "had parked that way for a reason you see, as she had a sore leg" then trotted off merrily for lunch in John Lewis. I grassed her up, and left her quite a Blush note when I think about it now, being sniffy about her car and demeanor (rich).

newwave · 16/11/2010 00:20

Vaseline on the windscreen, "thatl teach em"

Sauce, should have let a tyre down.

ChippingIn · 16/11/2010 01:01

It was a bit too nice...

'Next time, leave a fucking can opener'

Much more direct Grin

A wee while ago I was grateful to have a hatch back as the cars either side had both parked so close that a child couldn't have got between them, let alone opened a door... I was steaming! They had both parked 'passenger' side to my car - I guess allowing themselves extra room to get out at the other side - twits!

newwave · 16/11/2010 01:04

Chipping, that must have been a struggle :o

ChippingIn · 16/11/2010 01:10

It wasn't easy given I'm no longer the 8st stone, flexible teenager I used to be no mention of hours spent on backseats , not to mention two car seats in the back as well as a 12 month old & 3 year old in the shopping trolley.... gah... still they found it hilarious! Hmm

EcoLady · 16/11/2010 01:58

I was 8 months pg with DS when I had to take 18mth old DD to a hospital appointment. I got back to my car to find the cars either side jammed up close: right on the white lines on each side.

I ended up getting the hospital's car park attendant to call a security guard who climbed in through the hatchback and drove my car far enough forward to able to open the doors.

While he was doing this, the couple who owned one of the close cars returned... and complained that I was holding them up while I strapped DD into her car seat! Angry

I left the security guard to explain why "You are f*ing joking?!" was an entirely appropriate response!

TechLovingDad · 16/11/2010 02:09

Why is it passive aggressive to leave a note but not to park like a selfish twat?

nobodyisasomebody · 16/11/2010 13:46

Years ago I had a pad of notes in the car that said:

"Thanks for parking so close. Next time leave a fucking can opener so I can get my car out"

Selfish twats.

badfairy · 16/11/2010 13:50

I think driver will probably just screw it up and throw it away, but if it made you feel a bit better then fine

hmc · 16/11/2010 13:52

I can see why you were irritated and if it made you feel better, then why not!

NordicPrincess · 16/11/2010 13:53

mnetters seem to be obsessed with passive aggression! lol

I would have written it but worded differently

Tikitikitembo · 16/11/2010 14:12

One of our neighbours left a note like that on another elderly neighbours car. He had parked quite badly to get his 80 year old wife back into the house after a hospital visit. Actually, this note was aggressive so a bit different. However, the result was that our lovely old neighbour was so hurt that he sold his car and never drove again because he assumed he must be past it.

I don't see the point in writing nasty notes to people, it doesn't achieve anything. Nice people are hurt by them, nasty people just think you are the arse. Doesn't help either way.